men's dating "rules"

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Registered: 02-17-2004
men's dating "rules"
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Thu, 11-03-2005 - 9:11am

Hey girls,

Has anyone heard of "The System", supposedly the men's version of "The Rules"? I accidentally found it online: http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/137_relationship_expert.html It teaches men how to get the women of their dreams by making themselves a "challenge", i.e. not returning calls right away, acting mysterious, etc. So I guess "The Rules" has met its match. ;)

There are some interesting articles there! Though I don't like what this guy has to say (too much game playing), but at least the articles explain why some men act like dorks sometimes. Anyway, just thought that I'd share with you, and I'd be interested in hearing what you think of that.

Jess

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:19am
I saw no detailed "rules", only a web site where you can order this info for $99. Sounds like a "player's rule book" which I could probably write myself anyway. I think I'll pass.
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Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:43am

Hi Mitsy,

I think you misunderstood my point... I have no intention of recommending The System to anyone. I think it's outrageous. I don't like The Rules either. But I do think it's good to know some of the rules for men (which you can find from the free advice articles on the website I mentioned), to understand their behaviors better, like why they act aloof and distant sometimes. I still haven't decided if that's a good thing or a bad thing: on one hand they're trying to play mind games and trick women into falling for them, but on the other hand, they're doing this because they want you to fall for them...? It's almost equivalent to what many girls do (by following The Rules). Just wanted to hear everyone's opinion on this.

Jess

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 11:08am
It reminds me of Double Your Dating. Its just a ploy to make money by turning people in to objects.
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