Met guy online- distance problem
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| Wed, 02-02-2005 - 9:13pm |
Hello everybody! I just posted this same post on dating doyenne because I didnt see there was a board that had to do with my question!! Blonde moment- Ha- well Ill get on with it.
I met a guy online- Ive been talking to him for about a year now. However- big problem! Distance!!! And when I say distance, I mean distance!!!
He lives in Ireland and I live here in the states- but it wasnt a big deal for me at the time because I wasnt all that attractive to him in his pictures- Im kinda superficial like that. We both werent looking for anything out of our conversations- just a long distance friendship, however- ironicly through conversation, we just both found out that his cousin-(whom had moved to the States a year and a half ago) lives 5 miles from me in the next town!!!!
Now delema- hes coming out to visit his cousin and me in March over Pattys day.
We talked on the phone yesterday and sparks flew for the first time on both ends!!!!
I dont know how to explain it but now I have the personality with the face and thats what made my heart leap! Never had this kind of chemistry spark with anyone before. I mean I could not believe I could have this kind of an attraction after one telephone conversation! Now Im scared. I somehow have to distance myself from him while hes out here because I dont want to have a long distance relationship by all means!
What do I do now? Im the one who got myself into this mess of talking to somebody that could be potentially one of the greatest guys but, IRELAND- give me a break, why god? why? ha ha! Has anyone here had a situation like mine arise and what did you do or for those who havent- what would you do? Its crazy because hes the first one that Ive ever had a connection with that has had his head screwed on straight! ha! And probrably the first non don juan Ive ever been attracted to with my shallow side. I think I just fell in love with his personality and outlook on life, moral values are similar to mine- etc.
But Ireland- Oh dear Ireland, home of my ansestors and home to him. Sucks! Somebody give me advice here- Help me!!! thanks stacy

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>>Im on the internet to check out Pen pals- like one of the past had discribed. I am not looking for number one- because I am number one- just looking for a good person to chat with.... Im not out looking for true love- just a good realistic friend.
Ahem... so why are you posting this story on dating forums? ;-)
Your best bet is to calm yourself and remember this guy is a FRIEND. A pen pal. Sometimes friendship can become more, but considering the distance, I wouldn't count on it at this point in time. Look at it realistically: Your friend from overseas happens to be traveling stateside so you finally get a chance to hang out in person. How exciting! So have fun and keep your expectations realistic. High expectations almost always lead to disappointment.
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