Met his son : )

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Met his son : )
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 9:42pm

Things are going SO well. I went to R's last night. And met his son for the first time. Let me just say his son is the sweetest, most gorgeous little boy. EVER. He's 10, and had his hand out to shale mine (I have a feeling daddy was doing a lil coaching b4 I got there).

Anyhow, R and I watched Kung Fu and passed out. No sex, just some racy making out. I told him I wasn't ready for that step yet, and he said that any guy worth dating would be respectful and understanding of that, and he was. So, we snuggled and crashed out in his bed. It's been a month of dating, and that's the first time I stayed over at HIS place.

Anyhow, R wants me to go to his son's soccer game with him on Sunday, and I am excited. Then, the Friday the week after, we are going to see Whooppee Goldberg!!! My boss was able to score free tickets.

Things are going so well. We see eachother 1-2 times per week, and it's perfect. I have a tendency (like a guy) to feel smothered and turned off if I am with someone 24/7, and this relaxed yet steady plodding ahead is so great.

I keep discovering new things about him, and him me. I'm growing more fond of him each time I see him, which is a good thing : ). ANd there's still so much to discover and do with eachother....: )

Gal Blondie

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 9:51pm

blondie,glad things are going so well for you,but an observation...Don't you think even though he *says* he's ok with your decision to wait awhile before you become intimate, he's going to get teased and led on with you sleeping in his bed?

If a woman wants a man to wait on sex, then it's not a good idea to have racy make out sessions then get in his bed and snuggle with him. Men have desires and it's not always easy to turn them off. I don't know how many times you plan on sleeping in his bed, but don't you think he's going to get teased at some point??

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:03pm
Yeah, I hear ya. Probably. He will get it eventually though, and he knows that the kissing is not going to lead anywhere, so I guess if he decides not to kiss me that's his call. We'll have to control ourselves...

Gal Blondie

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:09pm

Yey! Seems like things are going really well! & his son sounds like a doll! He has custody of him, right?

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:09pm

Gal blondie, why do you have to sleep in his bed though? Can't you sleep on the couch? Why put yourself in the position of teasing him? What if he's horny that night and get's turned on by you in his bed snuggling with him? Won't you feel bad if he has to go into the bathroom and relieve himself?

I just think if a woman is not ready to have sex with a man, she has no business under the covers with him snuggling in his bed.

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:13pm

While I appreciate your having his back, ha ha. I was in the bed with him b.c we were watching the movie on his plasma TV which hangs in the corner of his...ta da-bedroom!
There ARE no couches in there!

Plus, he is a big boy, he does really like me, and if he isn't mature enough to deal with kissing and heaven forbid being in his bed, oh well. He knows the deal.

Gal Blondie

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:18pm

Thanks! Yes, he has custody. I think it's really sweet that I was invited to a soccer game. Apparently, a lot of the girls he has dated in the past have not worked out b/c they don't know how to act around his son. Seriously, who doesn't 'know how to act' around a kid ?!?

I almost like R better b/c I was so taken with his son. My heart completely melted when i saw him. Trying not to be too gushy, but ya know : )

R is totally cool with waiting. And I'm not gonna give up the "other" things that can be done in the meanwhile! We're only human : )

Gal Blondie

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:56pm
AHA! So youre not so virginal AFTER all!

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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 11:50pm
lol . . .those other "things" . . . can often exhaust a couple as much as full-on sex and offer about as much satisfaction :-)
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 11:55pm

I'm sure this will be an unpopular opinion, but I don't understand meeting kids this early on. I really have a hard time with parents doing that. I won't meet a guy's kids until we've been dating for at least a couple months and are exclusive, even if the guy wants me to (and honestly if he wants me to meet them earlier it's a red flag to me).

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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 12:06am

Actually, thats NOT unpopular to me at all.

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