Met a new guy..
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| Tue, 05-17-2005 - 8:34am |
And things are going GREAT. We had a date Friday and Sunday night. Yesterday he met me for lunch as well. My question is, has anyone ever had a first date with a guy (not a meet, a date) and had it feel just right, perfect, amazingly good? I'm 26 years old and this was probably the best date of my life. He was a perfect gentleman, conversation was great, had a lot of laughs, had a nice kiss at the end of the night. I feel like we have known each other forever. We are both really comfortable around each other and have a lot in common. He told me on Sunday that he isn't dating anyone else and I told him the same. Now whether that means we are exclusive or not, I'm not quite sure. This guy is a total sweetheart and from the looks of things I can tell he really likes me. He always calls me, always suggests the dates we had gone on, etc. I'm not questioning him like I have with the guys in my past. No need to reference HJNTIY.
The way I feel after I see him is so hard to explain, I even told my friends after our first date that I could fall in love with this guy. This is crazy! I never act this way, they even said at dinner last night how I'm just glowing and they've never seen me like this before. Talked to my mom about it, she said I'm acting the way she did when she met my dad, that she knew he was "the one" right away. I'm not thinking like that obviously, maybe I'm just smitten by this guy. I guess I'm just seeing if there are any others out there that have experienced something similar to what I am. That I'm seriously not going crazy or something.
Layx2

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Insert "web blanket" emoticon here.
I can understand your joy, having felt it myself a few times. BUT -- it's important to keep your feet on the ground at this time. When you say "always", you are talking about 4 days not 4 years. My dear, it's easy to be perfect for 4 days! My own personal record is 6 days.
Have a great time with your match, and take one day at a time.
Cheers.
amjay
Oh I have plenty of experience with online dating. I've ment over 20 men in my year or two of doing this. I don't jump into things quickly, that's why my friends are a little bewildered by me right now, they've never seen me blush over a guy or anything. Yes, I know we have only gone out 4 times. I don't believe I'm being overly commited at all, I am taking my time with this and see how it goes day by day. Who knows, we may stop talking in a week, it's happened before. Just expressing how I'm feeling after the dates we've had. = )
Layx2
Hi LA,
Go with it and Enjoy it! No reason for rushing,just take it day by day and see where it leads, together. Talking about being exclusive is one thing, and sometimes men say that so you will sleep with them sooner,it makes you feel secure. No need to rush there, either. If a man won't wait a month for you, or longer, if you feel that, then you will know the 4-1-1 right away! I am 49 and it has felt "right" with my Tall Man since Date 1, and gotten better each day, in the last 3 months.
Don't let people rain on your parade, either! Yes, friends and family will show concern, but they should Not tell you that this cannot happen! TM told me he began to fall in love with me on our 3rd date and that felt wonderful. He is my love and my best friend, and that is the solid base I want to build upon.
Try not to put out too many "we" or futurism comments right now, though. Chat about future things with a casual air and let them go, don't go deep-dish on every comment. Men sometimes scare themselves when they feel this way, and back off in the 3rd week or so. Let it roll and he will come right back, when you do not pressure him.
Good luck, this is true cool!
Truly,
Cupcake
Nah, you're not going crazy, and it's totally fine to be smitten!!
Good luck and enjoy but PLEASE remain grounded. I just had my heart broken and waited a month to be exclusive or physical and trust me I wanted to dive in like you are now – about 4 months later he changed (did a 360) and two months after that we broke up. It takes 4-6 months before you will see how you REALLY are, not the infatuated version.
Well, my new guy asked if he could come over and see me last night and "steal a few kisses." He did and it was really nice. Things were getting heated, but I stopped and explained to him how I felt about sex at this point and that I didn't want to regret something after the fact. He looked at me and said "I respect that, 100%. I'm in no rush at all." So I'm feeling good about things. But let's see if he can hold off for a month or two. That's where the real challenge comes in! Thanks for everyone's advice. I'm feeling good about this guy. He's very respectful and seems REALLY into me. I'll keep everyone updated!
Layx2
Not reading any further before I answer your post....
It is possible. I never would have believed it if it hadn't happened to me. And I did some major emotional holding back because I didn't want to be wrong and no kiss for 6 weeks of dating!!! It was torture, but so worth it. I am beyond ecstatically happy now. So yes, it is possible, but do try and be realistic because you barely know the person yet. Don't give in to the starry eyed stuff and just proceed with your eyes wide open.
best wishes,
j
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