met someone at a club

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Registered: 02-13-2006
met someone at a club
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:46am
HELLO EVERYONE.WELL I WAS SUPPOSE TO MEET THAT GUY FROM ONLINE THIS PAST WEDNESDAY BUT HE HAD TO WORK...WELL I THEN WENT TO THIS CLUB THAT I GO TO FROM TIME TO TIME AND OF COURSE I DANCED MY BUTT OF IN THE CAGE.I ALWAYS DO THAT AND I ALWAYS NEVER TALK TO ANYONE THERE TO SOCIALIZE.ANYWAYS AT THE END OF THE NIGHT I WAS SITTING THINKING ABOUT MY FAILED RELATIONSHIP AND THIS GUY STARTED UP A CONVERSATION WITH ME.HE PULLED UP A CHAIR.WE CHATTED BACK AND FORTH ABOUT JOBS,WHO RENTED AND WHO OWNED,DIVORCE,KIDS.HE THEN LATER WANTED TO KNOW WHAT I LIKE TO EAT BECAUSE HE WANTED US TO GO GET SOMETHING TO EAT AFTERWARDS.WELL I HAD SOMETHING TO DO THIS MORNING SO I SAID NO.WE EXCHANGED PHONE NUMBERS AND HE WALKED ME TO MY VEHICLE.THEN WHEN I GOT HOME, HE HAD CALLED TO MAKE SURE THAT I GOT HOME SAFELY.I CALLED HIM AND HE TOLD ME THAT HE REALLY WANTS TO SEE ME AGAIN.I TOLD HIM THAT I DON'T NORMALY LOOK LIKE HOW I DID EVERYDAY.I WEAR GLASSES.I KNOW THAT HE AT LEAST KNOWS WHAT I LOOK LIKE.ANYWAYS...I'M GOING TO TAKE A CHANCE.ON THE 5TH OF MARCH HE'S SUPPOSE TO MAKE ME DINNER AT HIS PLACE.I DID RESCHEDULE WITH THE GUY ON THE INTERNET TO MEET THIS SUNDAY.WE HAD MADE THE ARRAINGEMENT ON WEDNESDAY BEFORE I ENDED UP GOING TO THE CLUB.AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING?THE GUY AT THE CLUB WAS NICE BUT I REALLY WANT TO SEE HOW THE PERSON IS OUT OF THAT ENVIRONMENT...HENCE THE MEETING ON THE 5TH FOR DINNER.I FELT THAT IT WAS EASIER TALKING TO HIM UNLIKE THE INTERNET GUY BECAUSE I'M USE TO TALKING TO SOMEONE FACE TO FACE...THEY SEE MEA AND EITHER YOU KNOW IF THEY LIKE YOU OR NOT.ANYWAYS I'LL LET YOU KNOW WHAT DEVELOPS.
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Registered: 02-20-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 8:55am

Why not go out for dinner? Dinner at his house for a first date = nooky expected, so unless that is what you want switch it to a public place.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 9:23am

Good luck!


I'm with orchid though... You may be setting yourself up for sex by going to his house for dinner. Also remember, this guy is a relative stranger. You don't know who he is or what he's about. In my opinion, it's a bit dangerous to go over his house, so please be careful.


Definitely update us on how it all goes. I'll be looking for a post after your date! :o)


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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:46am

You are seriously going to go to some stranger's house so he can cook you dinner?!?!? IMO, VERY, VERY, VERY BAD IDEA. #1 - DO NOT EVER go to a stranger's house! You talked with this guy for a couple hours maybe. Chances are he is not an ax murderer, but you have no idea. Meet him in a public place for dinner if you want but please do not go over to his house until you know him much better. Your personal safety should be your first priority.

#2 - you obviously are not listening to me when I tell you that I don't think you should be with anyone right now. You ignore every time I say that. You are gonna make up your own mind and if you are going to date only 2 months after your divorce, when your ex is still calling and you are sitting at bars lamenting about your failed relationship - ummm, not a great idea for establishing a healthy relationship with anyone. You need time to figure out you and what you want. I know you'll ignore me again, but just know that you have been warned.

#3 - stop putting yourself down with guys. He probably now thinks your an easy target with low self-esteem (which you do seem to have low self-esteem).

Please THINK and STOP before you wind up getting really hurt.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:41pm
orchid2006 is nooky expected?!I have NEVER done anything like this before!!O.k so I think that I will definately switch to a more neutral place.BUT will it be a date?I don;t know if i could handle it if it was a date versus just meeting up and haging out.Hey I should make it a coffee thing..right?I don;t drink coffee but I don't want to be in something so serious so quick.Did I tell you that I am extremely shy.You know what I can do is to make sure ahead of time that if I was to ohave dinner at his place to NOT expect any nooky?So do you know how I should approach that subject with him?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:01pm
It's less the fact that nooky might be "expected" and more that going to a stranger's house puts you in potential danger. He might seem like a nice guy, but you don't know him from a serial killer on the street. And if all you are wanting is a friendship, going to his house is not a good idea. It is a very intimate setting where he knows every nook and cranny of the house and you don't know a thing. Pick a neutral environment where you are comfortable and drive yourself. Let someone know where you are.

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Registered: 02-16-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 8:02pm
Whoa girl! You just met this guy and you already agreed to go over to his house? That is not a good idea. You are leaving yourself wide open for disaster - not to mention he probably watched you shake your booty that whole night. Are you nuts? You should meet in a public place where there are other people until you get to know each other much much better. Unless you are looking for meaningless sex...