Met someone online and slept with them..

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Registered: 06-15-2005
Met someone online and slept with them..
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Thu, 10-06-2005 - 9:57am

I met this man online, and he seemed like a great guy. We had alot in common and he was kinda cute. Well I went to his apartment and when I got there, he was not as cute as his picture at all. Yet...I felt like I had already gone to his place and so I slept with him. I do not want to see him again. I just don't understand why I slept with someone I found unattractive...what the hell is wrong with me....):

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 10:04am

I don't know why you did it. But if you feel it was a mistake, learn from it. Next time, don't go to a guy's apartment for your first meet. Not only is that dangerous because the guy could be crazy, but you felt obligated to sleep with him because you were already there.

Did you two have sexual conversations/emails prior to meeting? Why did you feel obligated to sleep with him? You might want to do some internal soul searching on that one.

Don't worry about not wanting to see him again. Odds are this was a one night stand for him and he isn't interested either.

Live and learn...

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 10:11am

Huh?

So you didnt' find him attractive, you didn't go on a date and you slept with him.

Would you have done that normally with a guy you DID find attractive? You aren't required to sleep with every guy you talk to online whether you find them attractive or not.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 12:26pm

Risa-


Don't beat yourself up over this.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 04-07-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:51pm

Sex is sex.........nothing about being attracted to someone. It was there and you went for it. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it and there is nothing wrong with you.

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 4:48pm
I agree with everyone else dont beat yourself up.....especially if there was alcohol involved. I made a new rule for myself after a similar situation a few months back. ---No alcohol at all with new dates until I have had sex with them completely sober. then I know the decision was mine not the alcohol. I am amazed at (at least for me) how even one glass of wine can enable me to do things that I would not....
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Registered: 10-08-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:17am

Definitely don't beat yourself up over this...many of us have been there. We don't all behave the way that we wished we would in hindsight all of the time. Just tuck the experience away for next time.

And I agree...date at my place = sex, so be prepared! Choose a different location for the date if you don't want to sleep with him at that time.