Mini Rant

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2005
Mini Rant
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Mon, 02-28-2005 - 7:45pm
Why do older guys INSIST on contacting me when I clearly state that im not interested in anyone more then 5-7 years older then me. I have guys that are 13+ years older then me contacting me. I guess they are assuming when I see their pic I am going to swoon? Does this happen to anyone else?
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 7:50pm
Never happened to me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2004
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 7:53pm

Every flippin' day......lol.

Lisa

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 8:56pm
LOL--and I get guys "winking" at me who are 21 years younger!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2003
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:09am

Hang in there gal moonlight, If its any consolation, I too get the same type of contacts (winks & emails), on a daily basis I might add. And yes, it is clearly specified in my profile that I am not interested in dating older men who could pass for my Uncle's age.
Apparently, these type of men don't take the time to read, they just click on Pics that they like... After awhile, you will become immune to it. I just delete those now without hesitation.
I figure that if they can't even bother to take the time to read the profile information, then a response is definately not warranted on my behalf.

P.S.
Hope it provides you with some comfort knowing that others of us are going through the same scenario. LM :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:40am

Dear GM,

Worse are the ones who start out..."I know I am 10 years over your age limit, but please read my profile anyway". I think it is a matter of respect to pay attention to what people are Clearly stating per their preferences. I do Not want to hurt anyone's feelings, so why do they throw themselves in front of that train!?

I also get emails from guys that are 35, to my 48, and have on their profile that they 'definitely want two kids"--Not from This Mama Bear! My sons are late teen years, and I do not wish to start over, although I love children. So, let's not waste each other's time, and I KNOW what you are thinking With, if Not what you are thinking Of, Boy Toy!

Truly,
Cupcake

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 9:46am

Yes it happens to me also. The older guys that are from 10 to 20 years older than me email or wink a lot and then always seem to follow it up with "But I look 10 years younger than my age"...well I'm glad you think that but it still isn't what I am looking for either! It's almost an insult to me, like haven't you even read my profile where I state my age criteria? I just delete these rather than any response.

Yes, I think that they think we'll swoon at their picture. I have also had them try to impress me with all the "things" they own - vacation houses, large boats, etc. and I'm looking more for a long term relationship that is good between us more so than the "things".

On the other hand I also get responses from the mid to late 20's also, which makes me laugh since that is my kid's age (I'm 45)! I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone that much younger than myself! I seem to get along best with the guys that are about 7 to 8 years younger than me.

I really don't think many guys read the profile cirteria or if they do they just ignore it!

Sunshine

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 9:51am

Yes, it happens to me and I am so annoyed by that. My profile states I'm looking for guys between 27-32 and I get guys at 35, 39, 40, 45, 47. While 35 isn't so bad,there is no way I'm even considering a 47 year old. I'm 27.

My next beef is I'm looking for guys within 15 miles of my home in Baltimore. What do I get, Philly, New York, Georgia, California, Puerto Rico, Germany, Philipines...why are they wasting my time?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 10:14am

You ladies have no idea how gratifying it is to hear these bozos, who won't give my 46 year old profile the time of day, are getting shot down by the yung uns.

Hah! I could have told them they had a better chance with me!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 10:33am

LOL Amjay,

Shoot, they can't handle This! :)

Truly, really, no kidding...,
Cupcake

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2005
In reply to: gal_moonlight
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 11:44am

Dont worry Amjay..these guys are definitely not good enough for you if they lack reading comprehension, lol. Maybe we should just start putting the opposite of what we are looking for and maybe have better luck???

For example:
"Please disregard any information in my profile that I painstakingly spent hours perfecting and read the following:

I am 25 and I am only looking for guys that will be mistaken for my father if we go out. I am looking for a guy a that will retire in a few years, Must be twice my age at minimum. He must live at least in another state, or be married. He must never call when he says he will, or actually show up for a date. He must make crude sexual jokes at inappropriate moments and try to get me to his place ASAP or I will lose interest. All the other stuff you read in my profile is just for show, this is what i really want."

Maybe if we start writing like that we will find some winners??
Actually now that I think about it..Ill probably find a guy exactly like that LOL

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.

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