A minor annoyance

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Registered: 11-28-1999
A minor annoyance
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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:23am

I know this isn't the worst thing that can happen, but what's up w/ people who, reply to your first email on an OLD site and then you never hear from them again?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 12:27pm
Amen. OLD makes it too easy for people to be lazy and not be courteous. So many people behave so badly online that they would never think of doing that in person.

I liken OLD to catalog shopping. It is the same mentality where you put in an order then decide to not follow through and think it is ok since you did not officially "place the order." So it does not cost you anything.

Mark
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 2:10pm

Yes I recognize that the guy could be talking to several women at the same time, so if he's more interested in someone else, then he'll just go w/ the other one and forget he even talked to me and I'm sure it doesn't cross his mind at all that he just left me hanging.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 4:02pm

It is frustrating. But, it hasn't been all that long, so he may write to you again.

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 11:29pm

This happened to me online with women a lot. Unfortunately, you really have no idea what is going on with the other person when they don't respond--even after initial interest. They could have met someone else online they really like. They could

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Tue, 10-18-2011 - 9:16am
Oh yes, it sounds like you've found many of
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 10-18-2011 - 11:02am

When I first signed up for OLD after my div, I was chatting w/ this guy & got up to talking on the phone and then I realized that I just wasn't ready for dating.

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Registered: 05-19-2011
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 4:21pm

I completely agree, I wonder that all the time.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 6:12pm
The only time I have ever done anything like that is when they reveal something to me in an email that is a dealbreaker for me. I just stop writing back because I don't want anyone trying to convince me to date them anyway, and I've had too many people turn abusive on me once rejected. It may be something as seemingly innocuous as religion, or mentioning wanting to have kids someday, but both of those are dealbreakers for me. It didn't happen often, but once in a while it did.