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| Thu, 11-10-2005 - 9:33pm |
I received a really short email on Match from a guy that had almost nothing in his profile so I went to Match's suggestions for writing a good email. Surprise, Surprise when I read the following:
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So there you go. They are not to your point yet of docking people for ghosting, but they are suggesting the thanks but no thanks emails.

“Thanks for your e-mail! I liked your profile, but really think we live too far apart for me to get involved right now” is still nicer than being ignored. >>
I totally agree that this sounds a lot better than being ignored or even saying "thanks, but no thanks", and you could insert any other reason (I'm really looking for someone younger (older)," whatever, and make it sound decent.
Oh no - don't get me wrong. I hate the "thanks but no thanks" emails (and mitsy, when we say that, it's our generic wording for the "thanks but we are not a match because...fill in blank here). To some, receiving that is much kinder than a ghost. To me, I'd rather avoid the sting of some dude I've never met telling me why he doesn't think we'd be a good match. He thinks it, his silence infers it and that's all that matters.
My main point of this post is just saying that now Match is encouraging people to write these emails. eHarmony forces you to when you close a match - you have to give a reason. I use the generic "I want to pursue other matches" excuse or even "Other". But they have some that are both stupid and even hurtful, IMO. Stupid is "I don't feel there is any chemistry". Of course this one is stupid if you haven't met yet - how do you know if there is no chemistry? The hurtful one is "Based on statements in their profile, I am not interested in communicating with this match." That one stings especially since it doesn't let them say WHAT in the profile they are referring to. I suppose it doesn't matter if they are that rude and thoughtless, but it makes that thought go through your mind of "so what's wrong with me and my profile?".