More and more Asian men forced to marry

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More and more Asian men forced to marry
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 7:25pm

In a study just concluded:

More and more Asian men forced to marry foreigners:
July 26, 2010, 9:01am

PARIS, July 26, 2010 (AFP) – Increasing numbers of southeast Asian men, particularly in Japan, South Korea and Taiwan are marrying foreigners because fewer women in their homelands are willing to wed, a new study said Monday.

The phenomenon, which dates back more than a decade, has even created a detectable trend in women's migration, said the study by Daniele Belanger of the University of Western Ontario University.

"Since the beginning of the 1990s, more and more men in southeast Asia are looking abroad to find a wife," wrote Belanger in the journal of France's National Institute for Demographic Studies (INED).

In Taiwan, 15 percent of wives were of foreign origin in 2009; eight percent in South Korea.

In Japan, the phenomenon started earlier, in the 1980s, but has remained at a modest level: only five or six percent of marriages in the mid-2000s involved foreign wives.

But in all three places, foreign brides represented the largest group of new immigrants apart from the temporary workers, wrote Belanger. And the reason the men went looking abroad was the lack of women at home, she added.

With women's education levels rising so was their representation in the workplace, she explained.

Increasing numbers of them were not willing to settle for the traditional role of a wife -- at least as it exists in its current form. They preferred to keep their jobs and stay single.

For men however, "they have the responsibility to continue the paternal line by giving birth to a son and, in many cases, looking after their aged parents," Belanger wrote.

They could not therefore remain bachelors.

The foreign brides generally came from China and Vietnam, and if at first this kind of marriage was more common among the rural poor, it subsequently spread to the urban middle classes.

There were even marriage agencies specialising in this sector, charging the man's family between 5,000 and 10,000 euros.

Some observers have expressed fears that some of the brides involved are victims of trafficking.

But Belanger noted: "The great majority of migrant women marry of their own accord and not under parental pressure, and their objective is both to marry and to migrate."

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 6:13am
yes but my whole point was that it happens alot and not just in china.
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:17am
Did you know that foreigners will often pay the American citizen to marry them? Yes, it's illegal but cheaper and safer than paying a smuggler.
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 5:57pm
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 5:28pm

ROFL
Marriage is always been a transaction. It is only among the poor
that "love" is important. Language can be learned and the customs vary widely after all most women up until recently in the Western countries had a dowry. That was expected. Still is in many part of the world. As far a the language why is it assumed they can't speak and write and can the other read and write and speak in their language?
Many countries in fact teach English as part of the regular school lessons. It has high statues a a trade language.
All over the world high status persons have more choice in selection of mates and dates.
Love does not mean the same thing all over the world as the concomitant are defined by culture. In many cultures retention of family status is important enough for murder.
Over history many brides and husband did not speak each other's language. Many countries brides were in fact "stolen". Raids for food wealth and women were common in earlier times. Some today even have wife carrying contests(Scandinavia).

*http://www.thaisextalk.com/looking-for-love.htm

*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bride_price

*http://www.bangkokdiaries.com/2008/06/22/why-farang-men-like-thai-girls-and-hate-farang-women/

http://www.bangkokdiaries.com/2009/08/31/proof-farang-women-clueless-men/

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 4:31pm

when you go to another country and promise the parents of a girl money, etc if you can marry their daughter, it is essentially buying them no matter how you look at it.


any time you marry someone who can't speak a word of english, there has got to be an issue.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 2:30pm
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 2:22pm
Slavery would be buying a woman and many Americans in the 17th and 18th centuries to today have mail order brides. Back aways there was a movie about such.
I cannot understand the slavery referance.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 12:18pm

I suppose it could be slavery but many people from foreign countries are happy to marry an American so they can come here (and eventually bring their whole families here too). I work in a law firm that does immigration (mostly people from China) & it's very common for someone who is here already (either citizen or green card holder) to go to China & get married (both men & women do this). Of course most of the people are from China but occasionally we do get a Caucasian man who marries a woman from China--and the guy doesn't even speak Chinese. I do wonder about those people & what they think is going to make the marriage work when they have so little in common. The the cynical side of me says that in 2 yrs when the green card becomes permanent, she can get divorced & stay in America. So it works out for her too.

I also saw an article saying that in China since the preference was to have a boy (and they still allow most couples to only have one child) girl babies were either given up for adoption or aborted, although supposedly that is against the rules. So there is a society where there are more men than women and many men will have to remain single just because there aren't enough women to marry them.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 8:39am
do you know how many american men are also marrying women from other countries for pretty much the same reasons which amounts to little more than slavery.
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 7:53am

Hi, Thanks for the article.


Could you provide a link please?


Thanks.