movie date - a step forward?

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movie date - a step forward?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:04am
Hi, I'll have my fourth date with the guy I really like this weekend. He initiated it so I assume he IS interested. Besides, he came to see the show that I¡¯m performing in and seemed to be very impressed. He said to me about my performance: ¡°you had me.¡± It was the sweetest thing to hear!
Now I¡¯m getting so excited about the date. Should I make a move or at least hint at him to make a move? If you read my previous post, he has never touched me except for a few hugs. I¡¯m getting the vibes that he is taking things slowly. However, as far as I know, a movie date is a step forward, am I right? It is more romantic and things happen in movie theatres. Am I reading too much into his suggestion? What should I do if I really like the guy and want more without being too forward?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 9:10am
Hmmm. Usually I think of movie dates more as a "simple" date that doesn't require a lot of planning. I personally don't think of them as "romantic" since I go to a lot of movies with friends or even alone but if you're thinking that way then sure - maybe make a bit of a move like putting your head on his shoulder or hand on his arm or holding his hand. Don't make a huge move though. He may be holding back for a reason - you've been going out a while without him making a move at all. While you can show him you are open to moving that direction to him, I've heard that most guys prefer to make the first move still.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:07pm

I don't like making the first move, personally, but I will make a "mini-move" ;-) that invites him to make a move, such as putting my hand on his arm as I reach over to get some of the popcorn we're sharing (or something along those lines...you get the idea).

Like Vex, I don't really think of a movie date as "romantic". Interesting take on that.

Sheri

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:06pm
Yeah, by “action” I meant the "mini" ones like leaning toward him and stuff that you girls mentioned. I feel so silly about the whole idea though. May be I’m just really infatuated with this guy, but I’ve never had to worry about things like this! Normally things just happen before I know it. Well, I ought to just relax and be myself, I think! Thanks for the replies girls! ?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:46pm

Hey,

Just hang in there and wait for him to make the move (with some hints like Sheri and Vex suggested). Some guys like to take it slow and build up the connection first, I think! My guy didn't make any move until the end of the 3rd date (goodbye kiss). Before that all we had was a goodbye hug at the end of the 2nd date, no touching, no flirting, nothing. We had great conversations though. I don't think the kiss would've happened if I hadn't suggested that we chatted more in the car after dinner (it was more innocent than it sounds I swear... After dinner he said too bad it was too cold out otherwise it would've been nice to stay out for a while and chat - we already stayed until the restaurant closing and was practically kicked out :P That was when I said we could chat in the car). So your guy could be shy or just want to get to know you better before doing anything. :)

Jess

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:27pm

Dont make the first move. Men and I mean all men have no problem taking initiative if they are interested. He might be taking things slowly or might be uninterested so dont rush things. This will be a turn off for him if you do.

A friend of mine was dating a guy (or so she thought) for over 2 months and nothing happened I kept telling her he obviously is not interested...
She insisted he is someone who likes to take his time. One night we went to a night club and he was with us. I introduced him to another girl friend of ours. He met the new girl on two other occasions and the last time he offered to drive her home.
She wanted to give him a good night kiss on the cheeks and he moved to give her a French kiss! and it was the third time he met her! so only then did my friend realize that he was not slow!! HE WAS NOT INTERESTED!!

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 12:53am
That's a good point. He might not be so into me after all. I've decided to just keep it casual and may be even meet other guys too. Thanks for the replies!