Mr. Needy AND Mr. Insecure??

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Mr. Needy AND Mr. Insecure??
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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 6:00pm

OK, the guy I mentioned earlier

heather 5-18-10
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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 9:10pm

He sounds needy and clingy and annoying. Some weeks things just get crazy and it's not possible to meet someone. Who can't understand that? And I hate talking on the phone too. I'm really bad at reading people, and even though I'm bad at reading body language, it's still helps a little to have it.

I'd give him one more shot - but I'd write something a little less snotty than you did - and then pass him over to me. I haven't had a date in a month and a half and I'm desperate enough to deal with a clingy guy.



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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 9:38pm

LOL - actually, I thought that was my polite answer.

heather 5-18-10
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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 9:51pm
Ok, well, I won't be a hypocrite and tell you what an awful email that is. :-) Did you send it?



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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 9:58pm

LOL, yup, I sent it.

heather 5-18-10
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 1:12am

Really? You guys thought that was snippy?

Huh.

Dallas must have a different standard than Seattle ;-). I thought that was a straightforward, "this is when I can get together, please READ" email.

Sheri

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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 4:08am

I think this guy is just anxious to meet you. It appears from what you've written that you are an independent woman, and he is looking for someone who is not so independent. It is not saying that either one of you is right or wrong, there are no right or wrong answers - this is a learning experience to find the right companion.

There are women who want a man to be very attentive and contact them often and want to spend a lot of time with him.....and there are women who prefer not to contacted that often and want to have a lot of free time to pursue other interests with other friends.

My advice in your situation is to not get involved with him, you two are definitely not a match.

Good luck and be safe!

Callie




Edited 8/16/2006 4:11 am ET by callie_jazzylady
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 9:57am
Well, "abrupt" might be a little better explanation, but not necessarily in a bad way.
heather 5-18-10
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 10:17am

Thanks, yes you are right that I am independent and probably different than a lot of women in that I don't need to be called every day and schmooze about my day with the guy I am dating.

heather 5-18-10
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 6:37pm

You are very wise, and I like your opinions very much! I admire your independence and knowing what you want, and how to set your boundaries. There are men who are on the same wavelength as you are, and when you meet Mr. Right, I just know that you'll have a wonderful and successful relationship!

Callie

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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:18am

I am a busy person myself - I usually go dancing every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Saturday night.

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