Multiple dating and kissing?

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Multiple dating and kissing?
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 5:37pm

Ok, everybody:
I have never dated multiple men at the same time, let alone kissed more than one, but I guess, since, in a way, OLD is like In-vitro insemination, you either end up with nothing or with more than you can handle! :)

I have two dates (two different guys) this weekend and the beginning of next week; on top of it, I am emailing with 4 other men, with the potential of at least 2 of them turning out to be guys I might want to go out with. Didn't mean to do it, it just happened (after a long, very slow periond). So, the question is: what about kissing, (when the time comes of course - never the first date for me)? Do I let them kiss me (if I feel the same way?); how do I go about it? I am not talking sex here: I can't handle that.

I am usually fast to become attached, which is horrible, I know; and part of this multiple dating thing is an experiment for me to learn how to assess potential partner vs rushing into things; but I don't know how to do it. I think I have down the technicalities (don't ask, don't tell policy; no sexual involvement; taking it slow, etc), but I don't really know how to handle the kissing/sexual tension part. And of course, I know that I will not be attracted to all of them, but still... I am confused right now... Well, knowing how OLD works, I will be happy if I find even one attractive, but hey, I am a WORRIER, what can I say? ;)

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 5:41pm

Hi Feisty,


I have gone out with plenty of guys where I did not kiss them until the third date so don't feel pressured into doing so. We are all dating to find someone we like better then the rest and alas that does take time. I say go with what you feel, if you have a fun date quickly reach over and hug them and if they kiss you on the cheeck (sp?) then so be it.