My date updates

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Registered: 11-17-2004
My date updates
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Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:32am

So, I've had 3 different dates this past week with 3 different guys. The first one we just met for coffee, very short, I just wasn't feeling it, the guy really wasn't my type (we were talking about fun stuff to do and I mentioned how I am 2 blocks from the downtown area here and I never do some stuff around here and he said "yeah, a few blocks from my house is a strip center that has a grocery store, drugstore, starbucks and olga's right there, it's great!)...ummm okay guy, that's cool but I was more talking about places to go, like bars/restaurants/unique shops, but whatever.

Bachelor #2 we met for a drink one evening, and he was nice, it was good conversation, again, not really my type but when has my type been working for me lately? I wouldn't mind hanging out with him again but I don't really see it going anywhere, but hey, good opportunity for a friend, so I e-mailed him to thank him for the drink, nice meeting him, etc., and yeah, didn't hear back...no big deal.

Which brings me to Bachelor #3...he just moved here from Michigan a few months ago from Utah (I met him on myspace and offered to give him a tour of the city ;) and we've talked on the phone a few times, and he is always very nice on the phone, and we met for dinner the other night. I was giving him directions and he still ended up getting a little lost in Royal Oak (a city near my house, tons of restaurants) but I found him and it was all cool. So, we sat down to eat at a kind of noisy mexican restaurant, and he was getting so agitated that you could physically see it. He apologized, said he had a bad day at work and had eaten candy for the past 2 days after not having it for 6 months, okay, understandable...then he goes on to say if he's not married by the time he's 33 (he's 29 now) he's getting a mail order bride (haha) and he hasn't dated seriously in 6 years because he hates the games, etc., and I'm thinking "okay, this guy is cool, he's ready to settle down like I am, this is nice..." and by the end of dinner he had calmed down a lot, much more relaxed and he said "this is how I normally am, relaxed and laid back" and he apologized for being crabby in the beginning. We walked back to our cars and talked about doing something this weekend and he wasn't sure what he had going on but said to call him. (This was Wednesday). So, I called him Thursday to say thanks for dinner and to see if he wanted to make plans, and he said that he wasn't sure what he had going on, knew he had to work on a couple of his cars and some other stuff, but "I would like to see you"....so I just told him if he's got some time and would like to hang out, to give me a call. But it's my karmic destiny, when I want a guy to call, they don't. And he hasn't responded to my e-mail I sent back to him on myspace on Wednesday even though he's been on there every day since, and it's the fact that I had a good time with him and wouldn't mind seeing him again to see if there's potential for anything, I just have a feeling I'm not going to hear from him, and this is what I hate, because whenever I like someone, or even show an interest, it's always one-sided. I have been so BLAH about dating lately and when I do put myself out there, it's the same crap all over again...ugh, I'm just so sick of it all!

I know everyone will probably say it's my attitude, that thinking he's not going to call, well, he won't, but even when I'm my normal, funny self that everyone loves, well, I don't know..am I supposed to be a b!tch? Men seem to love that! Dating is just so frustrating....

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: rebainmi
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 2:37pm

Hi rebainimi...


First let me say that I think it's great you

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: rebainmi
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 3:48pm
That stinks. I am sorry that he hasn't called so far.
 
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Registered: 11-17-2004
In reply to: rebainmi
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 5:22pm

Thanks for the kind words, I know I shouldn't even give it a second thought and I may be overreacting (considering it is still the weekend) but it just bothers me that when I do meet a guy that I would like to see again, I never hear from them. I'm also down this weekend because Monday marks one year ago that I had my first date with the guy I was seeing (my only time dating someone) and I'm sad about that and I'm tired of hearing "It happens when you least expect it" and "you just need a break"...I've taken a long enough break! :)

It just annoys me that people say they will call when they have no intention of...I don't do that, I just say "hey, it was great meeting you, thanks for dinner" and go on my way.

I'll keep you guys posted should any dashing prince knock down my door ;)

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