My dates this weekend
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| Sat, 01-20-2007 - 12:09pm |
Well, I went out with one of the guys I've been chatting with last night. Needless to say, it didn't go so well. I spent the entire time listening to him talk only about himself and his friends. He hardly asked me anything about me and the few times he did, it segwayed into a converstation about him again. He also talked really fast and had long drawn out stories about people/places I knew nothing about. I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I felt like I was having to try to get him to ask things about me. This is definitely not the type of person I want to go out with. I sensed a little of this during our phone conversation the other night, but he was asking me more things then. I kinda chalked it up to us being the first time talking but now after our date, I'm pretty sure thats just how he is. So, I guess I'm Nexting this one.
Then, I was supposed to have a date tonight with the teacher and I woke up and checked my email and he had written me that he had to reschedule our date because he was at work and something unexpectadly came up. I'm not sure what that was, but he said he only had access to email at the moment but would try to call later today. Oh and he wants to wait until next weekend to do our date. Seems like an aweful long time to re-scheulde to me. I'm kinda annoyed and upset about this and wondering if he just really isn't all that interested or what. I may give him one more chance, but I don't want to have a re-scheduler on my hands.
This other guy I've been chatting with online for about 2 weeks is frustrating me also. He has made no mention of wanting to meet or even chat on the phone. I sent him my personal email address and phone number anyway last week to try and hint at getting him to move things along but still no call. Only an email and he usually waits 2-3 days between contact with me. I really want to meet this guy because he seems really funny and we have lots of things in common. I'm not sure if he is just new to this online dating thing or if he just isn't that interested.
Ugghhh.....This whole dating thing can be so frustrating. Guess I'm back to square one again.

Hi, I wouldn't "next" a guy who talked too much about himself on a first date because he might be nervous. If what he had to say was half-way interesting (that is, if maybe he was trying to be entertaining instead of just self-absorbed), you might go out with him one more time. If possible, pick a date where you would be doing something (miniature golf, bowling, dancing) or enjoying an entertainment together (a club of some sort) because if he doesn't feel he has to entertain you, he might relax, be himself and actually show his interest in you. On the other hand, you may be right that this guy is totally self-absorbed and you should next him.
About the teacher who is rescheduling, I know the feeling when they do that, but again, give it a second chance. I had to reschedule a first meet once because of a work conflict and it had to be for a week away, but I was interested in the guy. (Turned out he wasn't worth it, but that's another topic.)
Hang in there. I am just as frustrated as you are. Not many guys want to meet me, and those who do are either not interesting or not reliable.
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We must just keep trying, I guess.
Elsa