My days with him

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Registered: 07-15-2005
My days with him
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 8:27am

Hello everyone,

I finally got a chance to meet a guy whom I have been chatting for almost 10 months. We dont have any committment yet during these 10 months. It is because he knows we are so far from each other and things are hardly work out. He believes that if I moved closer to him is better, but he doesnt want me to do things for him. Cuz no promise what would happen next. He is from the west and I live in East. Our meeting was in another town where is far from the place i lived.

My question is I am just wondering if you guys split the bill when you go out with a man in the western culture? Well, I went out with him for three days. He paid very nice and expensive dinner on the frist day. I asked him if we should split the bill. He said I could pay for the drink at the bar later. After the first day, we didn't have any nice meal but we walked a lot for visiting from place to place. Everytime, he stoped and brought a drink and snack. He just got for himself but would give me some to drink and eat. He seems running out of cash. So sometimes, he would ask me to pay for the entrance fee and breakfast. But he did pay for the major fee like hotel and small meal. I am not sure if this is a test from him (his ex was a taker), or he really run out of cash (he could exchange more money), or he took my advantage.

Besides that, he gave me a feeling we are closed to each other more than online. I was happy though beside the paying bill things. He prepared a small gift for me for this meeting. it is sweet. I think he likes me, but loves me. I know after this meeting, we do bring us together more closer in real. Should I keep working on this guy or forget him? I need your advise pls. Thanks and feel free to ask me any question if I confused you. Have good day to all of you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: isme666
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:17am

It is not "expected" in Western culture that a woman will pay her own way, but it is accepted.

heather 5-18-10
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2005
In reply to: isme666
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:08pm

Hi,

Thanks for your reply. The problem here is i already told him i like him alot. I told me i will miss him after he left. ask him if he will miss me. No answer from him. But he only said he only likes him but not sure where it will go yet. So he can't say he loves me or miss me. he needs more time to see what will happen. I feel so miserable to be with him. Sometimes, i think i might be too pushy for him. Should i keep a small distance with him and see how he react or what should i do next?

Thanks again!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: isme666
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 1:05pm
Yes, I say let him make the next move.
heather 5-18-10