my email to ghost

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Registered: 01-11-2005
my email to ghost
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 5:50pm

Hey,
Monday I post a message about “what should I say to ghost”. Thank all of you for your replies to my question. I felt much better after reading your replies.

I read other threads; it seems “ghost” happens quite often on OLD. This is the first time I haven’t been ghost. I understand other people’s reply. I should just move on. I just want to write an email to him that I could accept that he didn’t want to see my any more, but I did not accept “disappearing”. I wrote the email below. English is not my native language. I would like someone give any advice and revise on it. Thanks very much!

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I didn’t hear back from you over a week. I took it as a sign that the way you want to end up it is disappearing. I don’t think any wrong on me or you if we decided to stop seeing each other. I understand people change their mind constantly. I just don’t like the thing: “disappearing”. If you disappeared within the first-three dates. It won’t bother me to write this email. I don’t like to write a good-bye email. I just want a closure on our two-months seeing each other. You are a great guy, wish all the best luck to you!
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Registered: 10-11-2004
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 12:59pm
I can totally relate. I sent a nasty email to a guy yesterday that disappeared on me after 4 dates. It's easy for everyone to say, forget about him and move on, but when the chemistry was so great between you and a lot of other things lined up, it's pretty hard to just move on. I did good for 3 weeks, I knew he was probably looking for a reaction and I didn't want to give him the satisfaction. I tried really hard to just move on, but I had so much anger festering inside of me, that I had to let him know how I felt. I knew it was over between the two of us, so I figured what do I have to lose. I let him know how I felt, but I did censor myself a little bit, even though I had a lot more to say to him. Within 10 minutes of sending it to him, I got a response back from him. I don't really know what reaction I wanted from him, but I wasn't expecting the one that I got - I guess I wasn't expecting anything. He told me that I should have called him if something was bothering me (I did call him once and he never returned my call) and that he wasn't going to respond via email to my mean comments, etc. So, although I didn't get an explanation from him, I got some satisfaction in knowing that my email "got to him." I just wanted him to feel an ounce of what I've been feeling for the past couple of weeks. Sure it was immature and I know I shouldn't have sank to that level, but it's so hard to do when someone hurts you like that. Even though I'm still pissed about it, I do feel better after getting that out.

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