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My evening plans....
| Sat, 09-10-2005 - 8:23am |
I chatted with Bachelor 1 last night for awhile and he wants to cook me dinner tonight (shrimp scampi) and then take me to a movie....
Now normally I don't go to guy's homes this early in the dating... But I do feel comfortable with him and my alarms are not going off. Plus I will leave his info for one of my friends .... as a safety precaution.
I am so excited... I'll update you all much later tonight!

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Yeah, me too, but you beat me to asking, Stacey.
Holly
Oh yeah, they're still going strong. I think they like the rut! He still is over there 24 hours a day even tho they "don't live together" and he is still unemployed after almost 3 months. Apparently he turned down a job offer because it "wasn't what he really wanted to do so he wanted to give someone else the opportunity." Whatever. It is not going to get any easier here in Dallas to find a job. We have so many Katrina victims (I think close to 25,000 or more) and companies are giving jobs to them over people that live here and might have unemployed for a long time.
Anyway, sorry to hijack the thread. Just be careful kae! If you ever feel like he is moving too fast, don't hesitate to let him know and listen to your warning bells.
WHY TAKE DOWN A PROFILE?? Does it really matter if you are just dating??
you can keep it up and just don't log on all that often that way you are visible still and someone can write you it's your choice if you want to reply
i am dating someone 6 weeks now and both of our profiles are up.. so who cares. you will know/your intuition will know when you need to hide the profile
and yes ding ding, red flag if the guy says after the first date or two he is taking it down. he is blowtorching ,looking for perhaps you to fall fast so he can put another notch in his belt and most likely a c'phobe. hate to stereotype but it's almost a given w/c'phobes they move very fast and want sex like by the 3rd date so they say they are taking their profile down to lure you in
either that or they have serious issues /insecurity/possessiveness. who in their right mind falls that fast by date 2???
Hello- I appreciate everyone's input on this, but I don't think his taking down his profile was meant to be taken in the light that some of you are going. He casually mentioned it after I asked him how his family felt about his OLD and he said he was embarrassed, and didn't tell people and his mother had given him a hard time about it. He is not a sex maniac, the man is NOT trying to have sex with me, nor is he trying to be possesive.
He feels like I do about OLD, that it can be viewed as desperate or silly to some outside people and those people's opinions mean something to us...
But if he said it to hint that he is seriously interested in me, then great! I am interested in him as well and enjoy his company. He is well educated, smart, handsome, rich, and very secure in himself. I think he is a wonderful man and I a great catch. I believe he thinks the same about me...
BTW- I bought that mars and venus on a date... I'll let you guys know what I think! Thanks for the advise.
I'll be interested to hear your opinion on that book. Of all the relationship books I've read, I'd say that's my least favorite. Actually, I take that back...Mars and Venus Starting Over was worse.
Sheri
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I'm with you, Sheri. I read "Mars and Venus on a Date" and promptly donated it to my local library.
I just finished "A Fine Romance". I had bought it on your recommendation (and that of several amazon reviewers) a few months ago and finally got around to reading it. It's the best relationship book I've read and I've read more than I care to admit to reading.
All of her stuff (Judith Sills) is great. Reading her latest, "The Comfort Trap, or What if you're Riding a Dead Horse?" helped me break things off with my LDR guy (unfortunately we started talking again because of the hurricane, I need to extricate myself *again* but it'll happen), and I also really like "Excess Baggage" and "Loving Men More, Needing Men Less" (although the latter is a HARD book to take to heart, because it goes against almost all traditional dating wisdom).
Obviously, I'm addicted to self-help books ;-). My name's Sheri and I'm an addict, LOL.
Sheri
OK, well you DID neglect to mention that the first time and I fully agree that the context in which it happened definitely makes it different. HOWEVER, that still said, just remember that the jumping into the exclusivity right away often doesn't work due to the high expectations and the moving too fast. Not that it can't work, but more often than not, it doesn't.
Now, I am gonna have to snicker if you with all your cynicism about OLD and this guy who is ashamed to be on OLD wind up making a great match from none other than... OLD. In this day and age, you shouldn't be ashamed of it nor should you be embarrassed. It is just a different way to meet more people. What's wrong with that? It isn't desperate and if you do wind up meeting a "well educated, smart, handsome, rich, and very secure in himself" guy, how can that be a bad thing??
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