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| Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:48am |
Hi everyone,
Well I met with a new guy from OLD for dinner tonight. It went well. He was nice and decent looking. He had a great car, built his own home, good job, doesn't want to have kids (is 37 never been married - yeah seems to be my usual type lately!), which I do know he could be making up any of it!
The conversation seemed to flow pretty good. There was some attraction there between us. Then the food came....................................I know I'm being picky, but he started to cut his steak and grabbed his fork bracing his steak like a caveman with a death grip, for the sawing motions of his knife!!!! Although, to give him some credit, he did place the knife on the edge of his plate when he was done cutting his extra large sized pieces he stuffed into his mouth.
Am I terrible or what??? I thought he was ok until the caveman episode! I know not everyone has been taught how to use a fork and knife correctly, but I guess it's one of my pet peeves. Does this bother anyone else?
He also didn't even try to get the door for me of the restaurant, just kind of stood there waiting for me to open it as I was slightly in front of him - this was a first for me as the other guys I've met, no matter what their ages, always opened the door for me.
But he wants to get together again when I get back from vacation (leaving Saturday for a week). But I don't think it will happen.
But I do have another meet set up for dinner, tomorrow night, with a guy also from OLD, whom I have talked with on the phone a few times and we seem to have many of the same values, ideas of life, interests, and he is my age, 45. But best of all, he ISN'T an Engineer, but a CPA - but he could still be anal about things as the engineers I've met are!!! His looks are ok, but I'm hoping there is an attraction there as we seem to click on the phone and he's very articulate.
But I've tried not to let my hopes go up too much since I know that nothing is concrete until the face to face meet! And then you are still left wondering even after a great meet! My daughter thinks I sabotage meets by thinking about these types of things before meeting these guys. But I know what I like and dislike! Sometimes I wonder why we do this to ourselves!!! I'll keep you posted on guy #2...
Sunshine

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That, along with him stuffing his face, would tell me that I needed to keep looking for the right person. He is not it. Manners & etiquette are very important to me. A man must have some class and dignity. If he does not have that, then he is not my kind of people. Also, if I have kids I want them to have a better example than that.
Thanks Donna, Libra, and Leafygreens,
I agree that I want a guy with dignity and class. The ironic thing is, here I meet these guys, then I'm not going to be around after Friday since I'm leaving for vacation for a week on Saturday. Well I guess it'll give me something to look forward to when I get home. ;)
But it is hard not to get your hopes up, since there is still the possibility of ghosting at any time by OLD guys (or even real life guys), even when they seem really interested in you, some still will ghost! I've been through that, when I first started doing OLD, so I know it happens and can hurt if you've let yourself thnk about the possibilities too much and then they don't happen. So I've learned to just go with the flow and try not to over-analyze things. If it's meant to be, then it will be...
Enjoy your day,
Sunshine
Hi Donna,
I wish I were going somewhere exotic, but I'm not! I live in MI and am going up north to where I have relatives (about 200 miles away from where I live). We are staying in a cabin and weather permitting most days go out on the boat and cruise for the day. My parents are going also and my dad's boat has an open bow and can hold about 10 people, so it's always fun. My sisters from TN and FL are also going to stay there, so it'll be nice to see them.
There is a large river that connects with 3 lakes, so there are plenty of places to go. There are restaurants along the shore and ice cream shops that we also stop at for lunch, dinner, or snacks. Then if it's a rainy day, we go shopping, visit relatives, or do other fun things. Then at night my single cousins and I go to the bars usually. But I am definitely looking forward to getting away for awhile! I hope the weather is good while I'm up there. Thanks for asking.
Sunshine
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Sunshine turn it around. "It will give THEM something to look forward to when YOU get home". LOL
Have a wonderful time on your vacation. It sounds like you're going to a great place and really looking forward to spending time with your family. Keep your eyes peeled you never know when you just might stumble on a great guy and have a wild and wonderful summer fling! hehe...
All the best,
Libra
guy #1, i think you should let go of, unless you feel there was something really great to compensate for his lack of manners. If this bothers you on a first date, imagine a year from now?!
Guy #2 - give him a shot.
Have you made your list of Must Haves or Important things you want in a guy? Honestly, I think this would help. Did you read the post someone put on here last week? It was about making a list of what you'd like in a guy and don't date anyone who doesnt have all of your musts. I'd think your musts would be a guy with manners (guy #1 did not have this). Im still writing my musts. Its difficult to think of only 5!
Thanks Libra,
You made me laugh when you said, "It will give THEM something to look forward to when YOU get home". True!!! I like the way you think!
There are many people from where I live that go on vacation in that area during the same time that I do, so you never know who I coud meet! ;)
Sunshine
Hi SG,
Guy #1 I will not be contacting when I get home! I knew that from our meeting right away.
Guy #2 I do look forward to seeing again and I did talk to him again and it was a good conversation. He said he wishes that I wasn't going a way so soon, yet he wants me to have fun. So this will be interesting to see what transpires, if anything with him after I get home.
Yes I have made my list of things I like in a guy, personality traits. I thought I had found them with the last guy I dated exclusively, but then he totally changed on me by month four! Oh well live and learn! But before I was going for the nice looking guy, but I know now that the looks are not everything (but he does have to appeal to me!) ;)
The list that I did, the author let you have 10 important things you want in a guy...
Thanks for your suggestions.
Sunshine
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