My Long Distance Friend
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| Sat, 12-16-2006 - 4:38pm |
The only interesting person I've met on Yahoo so far (about 2 weeks) is this guy from the west coast (I'm in the south east) who says he is going to relocate to my area. He and I have been e-mailing for about a week. The last two days, he's been answering my letters almost as soon as I write them. It is obvious that he enjoys writing to me as much as I enjoy writing to him.
My question is about phoning. I am not big on phone conversations with people I have never met, but since it's going to be weeks before this guy and I get to meet, it might be a good idea to chat on the phone. I don't think it will tell us if we are "right for each other" but it might tell us if we are "wrong for each other." That's worth knowing also.
What do you think? Should I suggest that he call me or should I just wait until he thinks of it? I already have his cell phone number (it's part of his signature) but he has not suggested that I call him, so I would not want to call without discussing it. Also, I really prefer that he call.
On the other hand, maybe moving to phone conversation several weeks before he comes to town might be a bad idea. I also don't want to seem to be too eager or pushing ...
It's not a big deal, but I'd like to do it right.
Elsa

I would not talk to him until you know for sure when he's coming and it's no more than a week or two away. Too much potential for getting attached to a stranger.
Sheri
Elsa,
If you've been emailing a week, it's perfectly reasonable to tell him you'd like to talk to him on the phone. I agree that you can rule out a person by a conversation on the phone. Considering his distance I don't think you should waste time. Maybe wait another day to see if he suggests it, otherwise I'd give him my phone number and leave it up to him to call.
Devorah
Thanks for the feedback.
I do think we'd find out something important about each other if we talked on the phone a little. On the other hand, I think Sheri is right that it wouldn't be good to switch completely to phone, because it might give us a false sense of knowing each other. But maybe because of the time difference we can keep it so that we mostly write, not talk.
As I said, it's not a big deal. This guy is little more than a fantasy anyway. I'm just enjoying it while it lasts.
Elsa