My Man-Reading Skills--FAIL.
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|Tue, 03-30-2010 - 6:25pm|
Hi all *waves*! I'm a newbie here, but I figured if I had a question about dating of the online variety, asking it of those in the trenches with me is probably the wise way to go. So, I'll jump right in.
I delved back into online dating after a 4.5 year dating hiatus (by choice). I wanted to make sure I dealt with as much emotional baggage as possible so I could be at a place that was good when I decided to start dating again.
I created my profile and sent off a bunch of messages to guys who interested me.
I've now been out on three dates with one guy, all three lasting 6+ hours and all of them spent talking and talking and talking (which is fine by me). We also tend to text, IM, phone, etc. nearly every day.
I, by no means, think we're all exclusive or in a relationship--just want that clear upfront for the rest of this.
The issue comes in with the physical aspects of things. I'll admit the first night we got a little (ok, more than a little) drunk (damn you St. Patty's day) and had a nice little makeout session when I dropped him off at his apt. Nothing major, nothing remotely offensive to me.
Since that night, it's been pretty much nothing physically. On our date last night, I kissed him, and the response seemed lackluster to me---he didn't stop it or anything. He just didn't seem into it.
I'm not sure what to think...he's made it clear that he considers us 'dating...and testing the waters to see where it goes', which is pretty much where I'm at. I just kinda want a little more physicality to go with the toe-dipping!
I don't feel comfortable, at this point, asking him about it, but I have to admit, I'm a little frustrated because I'm just not getting a good read or even my patented gut instinct on this one.
So...with that long bit of prose, any thoughts, input, encouragement, swift slaps upside the head? :)