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| Fri, 06-24-2005 - 12:52pm |
well i realized last night why I left OLD - and got it re-affirmed last night.
i think its probably a lil of my area and the pool of guys and the fact online dating just isn't for me (i just had to try it one last time)....
this guy i met up wtih last night. great substance in his profile. ok looking. older but i figured why not?! well, he isn't exactly my type physically but i'm trying to not be picky in that arena anymore. as our conversation flowed - we get into the future talk. It was more casual chit-chat. In so many words he says bachelor for life. I had had the hunch before we met - and i got it re-affirmed. I told him its not a bad thing but he seemed totally disillusioned after some woman dumped him because he didnt want to settle down and have a family in the near future (keep in mind hes 36). I told him, well women kind of know what they want at this pt in their lives - if they dont see a future and thats what they are looking for - they leave. Why would they stay? He did not get it. And he didnt realize if he wanted to start a family he shoudl do it soon. He kept saying well maybe ten years from now (uh yeah that would make him 46 or so).
Hes just totally warped in the relationship zone.
The expectations were low and I was still disappointed. Im definetly staying off the online thng. Ah well i gave it a try.

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I think the more you do it the better you get at it and weed out wasted time guys
i don't see anything impressive about his profile either. it seems rather the same mundane profile as everyone else's. he does nt mention what he is looking for just describes himself.. not about wht he is looking for in apartner? to me he is new at it orjust out there dating but you don't know.. I would have probably gave him a slight chance but i would have found out more in my emails
but i do agree that men will not put out there, yeah i am not looking for a serious r'ship until sometimes after yu have met them.. I agree that some all want to be in love, share great intimacy and have a family someday but there also those type of guys that like bachelorhood and will stay there.. but I do agree if a man is ready and looking seriously for an LTR he will put it out there and make it known tht is what he is looking for.. and I did go on match recently and viewed alot of guys profiles and saw a lot of that written in their profiles and they seemed like "good catches" too.. i have dated the few that the profiles were nothing but lazy attempts to get dates and usually they were not looking for anything serious. the other thing is they don't always read our profiles , even tho hyou say you are looking for an ltr, yu must ask yourself so why did he call me if he isn't looking for one .sometimes he just likes your picture..
it is difficult and I have decided to start up again in a few weeks. I have not been doing it since my break up to give me time to workon myself and be the best i can be to offer someone.. I feel this is when I will be most radiant and attract the right kind of guys and not just date someone to get over someone else.
but i understand where you are and i was there and was not going to do it again, but then i saw a lot of new guys out there that seemed very interesting so now i am excited and a bit intrigued.
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