My own "stalker"

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Registered: 03-16-2006
My own "stalker"
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 5:18pm

Well, I'm not sure why I did it, but I responded back to that guy that had called twice, texted twice and sent an email all in 14 hours. I know, I know. Stupid. Well he responded back with an email and then called a couple days later and then another email saying something like "Well I called you yesterday and AGAIN you didn't answer." That made me feel very uncomfortable.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 08-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 5:42pm
Have you told him specifically to leave you alone? What did you say when you responded back to him? Was it encouraging?
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 6:01pm

I was talking on the phone week before last with a guy who seemed cool at first, so I agreed to meet him for coffee sometime the following week. Then he said something like "I really like giving massages" and started going on and on about them, so I felt really uncomfortable and said I had to go and we'd talk later. So the next night he calls me like 3 times in a row (I was out, but I would have screened anyway), then sends me an email asking when we are going to meet. I wrote him back a very short email basically saying "I've changed my mind about meeting, I don't think we are a match" and then I blocked him from emailing me. I haven't heard a peep since, so that's what I would recommend doing...just email him and let him know you don't think you're a match after all, and then block him immediately (you don't need to know his response if any!). If he keeps calling/texting after that, you can take further action from there, but I bet he'll leave you alone.

Sheri

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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 6:10pm

tillman, I wasn't exactly "encouraging" but I think I'd just said something about how we hadn't chatted in a while and how was he doing.

heather 5-18-10
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Sun, 08-27-2006 - 10:53am

Gee, that really stinks. Can't say I've ever met anyone that persistent since my crazy ex from high school- who did turn into a stalker.

At least you can block him and he doesn't know where you live. I just love a guy who can't play it cool. ;)

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 10:56am

I'm sorry you ended up with such a jerk....sadly, this is one of the hard ways to learn that we should NEVER give out our personal information until we know the guy is on the up and up. Just delete his emails and don't answer the phone when he calls, if he leaves a message, delete it and don't even listen to it.

Thank goodness he doesn't know where you live or what kind of car you drive. That's a big plus.

Callie