My own Ugh...

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Registered: 10-17-2002
My own Ugh...
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 1:20pm
OK, there was a guy who responded on CL and I emailed him back once asking for a picture. I got it, wasn't attracted and had enough guys that I was attracted to so I blew him off. A few days later, he sent another email saying he was giving me a little "nudge" (I think he does eHarmony - that's their latest gimmick). I didn't respond to that thinking that was hint enough. Today he send ANOTHER email asking again for me to send him an email and a picture. So what, is it time for the "response and block"?

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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 2:29pm

You're under no obligation to respond. If you're not interested just block him, if he didn't get the hint when you didn't respond the first or second time, it's doubtful he'll understand when you spell it out.

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Registered: 05-19-2005
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 3:48pm
I'd probably just ignore him, but blocking might give an extra measure of protection from further "nudging".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 3:57pm

How about just the block? I wouldn't bother to respond.

I had an "ugh" myself this weekend...I've been emailing with a guy from mydate who lives in NYC but is supposedly moving to Seattle this spring. He called on Saturday to tell me he's coming here for a visit on Wednesday...I was on my way out but I said I'd call him later to set up a meet. But right before we get off the phone, he goes "describe yourself for me". I'm like, "excuse me?". He said something about his laptop being down so he couldn't see photos. I just said "well, I'm the redhead" but I was so turned off, I didn't call him. I mean, just how many women are you talking to, that you can't keep us straight???? Then yesterday I get a call from a unidentified number and answered it, thinking it was my CL guy (who did finally contact me again btw), but it was this guy from NYC. He's like, why didn't you call me back last night? I said, "I was not comfortable with our conversation last night, so I'm going to pass, good luck"...and hung up. ICK!!! Now I can't answer the phone unless the number shows up ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 4:14pm

That is creepy! I hate it when guys get like that requesting info on what you look like or are overly demanding for "more" pictures.

OK, he's blocked. I did a test to see what happens when you send an email from a blocked address. So far, it seems nothing. I blocked my main email address on my anonymous yahoo account. I'm a little disappointed. Not that I wanted it so send something back like "You're BLOCKED Loser so stop emailing!!" but it would be nice if it bounced back to them or something letting them know that the email was not accepted. The person can just email and email and never know that it's being blocked.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 4:41pm

I'm of two minds about that. I think there's a plus to them not knowing, so they don't try making up another email address and continuing to email you if they are the obsessive type, for example. But there would be something satisfying about letting them know they were blocked, I agree ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 8:51pm
Hi, vexer & Sheri....this "UGH!"'s for you.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: vexer_hw
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 2:02pm
OH. MY. GOD. This freak won't go away. I come to find out that he was an eHarmony match at one point that I closed b/c he didn't have a picture posted. I get a one of the pity replies (I closed him in DECEMBER) that he's got a photo posted now so to consider re-opening the match. I go back to look at the profile and it's HIM. I don't have any guarantee that he knows it's me since I never sent a photo, but this is creepy. I bet he DOES know it's me. I don't have to reopen him on eH, but I wonder how many emails he's sent to me that have been blocked.

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