My plans cancelled

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My plans cancelled
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 2:01pm

Looks like it's not going to happen tonight with the lawyer.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 2:16pm

Hi Sparkle,

Yeah it does suck - but from the sounds of it, if you were to get involved with this guy eventually, he has a crazy schedule and you'd always have to work around it.

Just my thoughts because I dated a lawyer turned med student that was doing his residency and his rotations were crazy and we had such a hard time ever getting time to actually see eachother between my schedule and his fluctuating schedule. Finally I had to end it because I didn't like the craziness of the schedule, plus I must not have been that into him or I would have made it work I guess.

I just wanted to give you something to think about because many times things happen for a good reason, even though we may not always see it as that during the time in which it is happening to us.

These little letdowns are part of the OLD process and somehow you have to get tough and not let them get you down.

Ok, so the date got broken, so tonight you need to devote a night to you, the Sparkling lady and the fantastic lady that you are...maybe a facial, manicure, pedicure, a long hot soak in a tub of bubbles with scented candles around to celebrate the lovely lady that you are...just a few ideas...

There will be other times and other men for sure!!!

I won't be around much this weekend, but I hope you have a real nice Easter!

Sunshine

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 2:49pm

Sounds like you’re not meeting for a reason – I think you’re bound to meet someone else.

 
 
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 3:04pm

Is this guy for real????

Maybe I've become too cynical, but somehow this all seems too fantastic...BTW, what in hell is a lawyer doing in Irag???

Are you sure he's not make this stuff up???

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 3:23pm

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that sparkle! But I gotta agree with the others out here. Speaking as a person that used to travel a lot for work - starting a relationship is hard enough when you can spend time together. I have had two relationships in the past break up because I was traveling and we just drifted apart. And one of my good friends who used to be in consulting almost got divorced once she and her husband had to spend time together AFTER she quit traveling so much because they had gone on such different paths, they didn't know each other anymore!

I also agree that this still sounds kinda fishy. What, the guy can't take an hour out of his evening or day tomorrow to meet you for a cup of coffee?!? So this is the second time he has bailed on plans with you, right? It happens once, I will forgive them and chalk it up to bad timing b/c things happen all the time. It happens twice and it is either something is up with that person or it is someone trying to tell me that this is not meant to be!

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:58pm

sparkle, just an fyi - lawyers are a b*tch to date. I have dated a few, and they are all the same. very typical of what you described in your post. I'm not saying hes lieing at all. I'm telling you will always come second to work... I don't think thats the type of man you'd like. seriously, i'd think about even meeting him for a coffee date at this pt. It will always be you meeting him on his schedule or sorry when his schedule permits him to meet you....

Honestly, I read alot of your posts, and I want to tell you I think its great you are getting yourself out there. But take a breather and relax. OLD can get so hectic and you get so involved with it that it becomes stressful. This does not provide a great dating environment. Maybe just stop for a week and dont email/call any of those guys. Dont respond to any match ads/emails, etc. And let the guys work for you - and just do things for YOU that one week. get back on your feet and remember that you are just as happy single as with someone.

This is what I did when I was OLD. I had to take breathers to relax. i would get so upset with the cancelling/flakes/busy schedules, that I needed some time for me. And in that time, it made those guys work for me, which was a good thing.

Just my two cents...

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:24pm
Sparkle,
I would cut him loose. I can't believe what this guy is telling you. Even if it's all true - why do you want to be with someone who is never there?
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:31pm
Uhh, I forgot - hug :)
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:36pm

Sparkle, something's not adding up with this guy. It shouldn't be this complicated. I suspect that ultimately this won't end up going anywhere. I know it's not what you want to hear but I'd scrap any ideas of trying to

 

 

 

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 6:24pm

Actually, he didn't bail on me, I balied on him.

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 6:27pm
You know what?
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