My thoughts on Dating Lately

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Registered: 01-02-2004
My thoughts on Dating Lately
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:42pm

So in the past few months, I've been out on 4 dates with 4 different guys. I'm starting to come to the conclusion that in Maryland no one is meeting anyone and hanging around any length of time. I mean I've met people online and in real life and we talk, email and then get together only to never hear from the person again. My 30 year old even called the next day after our first date to say he wasn't running away and for me not to disappear on him there was no way he would not come back to me. We talked the next week fine. Fast forward 3 weeks, he hasn't called/emailed and I actually called him and emailed him once to see if he was okay. Even if we didn't date I'd still be his friend since we have so much in common. He doesn't answer his cell anymore, hasn't been online in weeks and read, but never replied to my email. Actually, I do think something happened to him as we could barely keep our hands off eachother so if nothing else he'd want to have sex with me.

I've been talking among my girlfriends and guy friends and they aren't having much luck either. The guys say girls don't give them the time of day or leave them to go onto someone with more money/power/material stuff as soon as they find someone. The girls are all in the same boat I am in that we talk to guys, they seem interested and then poof gone. You know if they didn't want to see you again the least they could do is just be honest and say I don't think we're compatible and thanks anyway.

I just don't get it. I'm not looking for a husband to have a family with. I'd just like a boyfriend to go out with, be intimate with and share my life with. I'm not looking to move in or anything legal like. I like guy things so you'd think I'd be beating them off with a stick. I'm happy with my life in that I started a new job I love last month. I'm good at my job and have gotten lots of compliments so far. I have a great son, whose happy and well adjusted with two parents who are divorced. I have a nice house I'm fixing up. I started taking lessons doing something I have always wanted to do today and my instructor said I was good at it. I just never thought things romantically would be like this when I left my ex husband.

Why can't I make it to a second date? With anyone?

Vent over now.
Thanks for listening.