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| Sun, 08-10-2003 - 11:40pm |
I am going to post another updated about Lloyd - since we've already discussed (to death) how I met him, and what I did on the 2nd date - I'm hoping at this point you all can just be happy for me, 'k?
Anywho - Friday Lloyd came to my place, my kitties, and I made home made pizza (I even made the sauce and dough from scratch), and he loved it! :o) Then I showed him around my town (he lives about an hour south-west of me and hadn't really been up here before), and we stopped to have ice cream while I was showing him our little downtown area.
Then on Saturday we went to six flags elitch gardens in Denver (amusement park) and he talked me into getting onto the "worst" of the roller coaster rides (Mindbender, where you sit with your feet flying in the air and go through tons of twists). It wasn't terrible, but I'd never go on it again - it wrenched my back out like nobody's business. I was on sooo much pain and he was all concerned about it and took me back to his place right away, and bought me a heat pad to see if that would help. He never bitched about the money he spent or the other rides he wanted to try or anything (please, can I hear a collective "Awww!"). I swear he's the sweetest man I've ever met.
Today we went hiking. He took me on one of the easier trails he'd been wanting to go on - 10 miles round trip. I've been walking a lot lately so I thought I'd give it a try - I made it about 4 miles in (and an elevation of 10,900 feet) when I couldn't continue - I was getting too light headed and the rest of the trail was almost like rock climbing. But I told him to continue without me since it was only another mile. He didn't want to leave me but I insisted, I didn't want him to be held back by me again like I'd done at the amusement park. He totally appreciated the gesture and took a ton of photos for me.
Anyhow I'm home alone right now - I had to come home and do laundry!! Tomorrow night he's invited me back to his place to meet his daughter, Emily, who is 20 months old. I will bring my collection of children's books from my years as a teacher and have some books to read to her.
Then from Tuesday til next Sunday he's on vacation - he's taking Emily back with him to Florida to visit the grandparents for a week. Which is good - I can catch up on my sleep!! (Hehe as Catherine would say {blushing}).
I might only have met Lloyd a week ago but I swear I feel like I've known him a lifetime. And while I am still poignently aware he just can't handle anything committed right now, what we do have so far just feels right. Even if it ends (and it probably will) I will have some great memories, and maybe in the end a good friend.
Hope everyone else had a great weekend! :o)
Gabi
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~Jen
Juzt a thought not a judgment. I hope you continue to have fun!
Edited 8/11/2003 7:47:28 AM ET by deena33
Gail;)
I would also be hesitant to met children, if there were no attachments to be made.
But I am happy you have found a great guy and enjoy your time with him!
Living in the moment is actually one of the hardest things for most people to do...
~*~ Catherine
Here I will speak from my past.. be careful for you... I don't know if you get attached to children easily.. I know I do. I dated a man with a lovely 2 yr old and I fell totally in love with the child, and the man as well. I knew that the man & I weren't serious, and it was the same thing that you have with Lloyd... Great companionship and even better sex. It might be really hard for you if things don't work out and you get attached to the child. (same for you, too Gail!) I don't mean to sound like a sour puss, I am just saying that because I know that I got really hurt that way.
Anyways.. Good luck. I hope your back feels better and that everything works out.
~Nikki
interesting perspective (but then again you always have one!) It also says something about the man who knows he does not want a commitment yet wants to involve his child.
Gail:)
Just an FYI, I don't know for certain if he wants a commitment or not - I'm making that assumption based on some things he has said. I would rather make the assumption he doesn't want a committment and find out that he does, than assume he does want one, and find out that he doesn't (self-defence mechanism).
However the fact he's wanted me to meet his child does give me a glimmer of hope that *maybe* he wants more than a superficial relationship. I'll admit I'm getting mixed signals but for me its too soon to sit him down and have a "talk" with him. He's been really badly hurt by women in the past and I don't want to scare him off. What can I say, I'm a sucker for hard luck cases.
I am also poignently aware of how attached children can become. I am a former elementary school teacher and I babysat for over 9 years ... and when the school year came to an end, or when I stopped babysitting, I did have many children in tears due to the seperation that was to come. I did pick up a trick or two that can make such things easier on the child.
I certainly can't very well tell Lloyd "No I don't want to meet your child". Then it would sound like I don't want anything serious. I'm just treading the waters very carefully here since I'll admit I am starting to really like him, but a part of me is still saying keep it casual or I'll get my heart broken.
Anyway, that's my 2 cents for today ...
Gabi
P.S. I didn't get the chance to meet little Emily last night because Lloyd's ex-wife made a fuss and now might not even let him bring her with to Florida to spend a week with her grandparents.
GaiL:)
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