My Weekend Dating

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Registered: 05-09-2005
My Weekend Dating
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 9:36am

Meet #1

The first one was with a guy whom within the first week we e-mailed and talked on the phone. Very pleasant phone voice, nice conversation and decided to meet at Borders. His profile mentioned "thick build" and when we met he was extremely overweight -- protruding stomach w/breasts. Yuck!!! Anyway, I was pleasant and endured the date, went and had coffee and bagels and at one point during the conversation, he asked the question: what do you think, would you like to continue seeing me? Guys, I couldn't say anything but "yes, that would be fine!" Then he commented on the fact that I seemed nervous! I tried to play it off, but he kept staring at me. Anyway date finally over and he walked me to my vehicle and kissed my hand and told me that he would definitely call me later that evening. He didn't call! Thank God! (smile)

Anyway I have no intention of ever calling or emailing him (basically "ghosting") but if by chance he initiates a telephone call I may have to send an email stating that "we are not a good fit!" It was very difficult for me to do this face-to-face. I don't like the fact that I lied, but it did make me uncomfortable that he had asked me that question.

Meet 2

This particular guy was someone who IM me -- no profile but did have a pic. Because the pic was attractive, I replied. We chatted briefly (pretty surfacy stuff) and decided we both should meet. Ironically he had just removed his profile because he was frustrated (taking a break) and when I had replied to his IM it had been over 3 weeks since he had written it. Since he had to work, we met during his dinner break briefly at KFC. Well he was very nice looking in person and he was pleased with me. We hung out for about 20 mins. and during this time talked about availability and wanting to further communicate and it seems we both are seeking an LTR. We'll see what happens.

Date 2

Well I met a guy in RL about 2 weeks ago and we had planned to get together (for a movie) last weekend, but I had family visiting. This is the same guy that would ask how come I'm not on a date if I was at home. Anyway we hooked up yesterday (since I was not free on Saturday) and he came to pick me up. For starters, he called me at 6:00 pm to confirm directions and then in 5 minutes my door bell ring. Thank goodness, I was dressed and ready but I will say that I didn't appreciate him showing up like that - also the movie didn't start until 7:30 pm. So we sat on the sofa watching tv and chatting, and then he went in for the kill. I told him I wasn't interested in going there and possibly we should leave and head to the movies. He then states that he is not able to make the movie (why he showed up earlier) and had to leave by 8:30 pm. 1.5 hours left and he still was being aggressive and finally left seemingly frustrated!! Lesson learned. The nerve of some people. NEXT!!

I have another "meet and greet" today after work and this morning already received (2) more messages from other potential men!

I know this is the "dating" process, but I'm ready to move on from this phase! Thought I would share and, of course, open to any comments or suggestions!