Myspace???

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Registered: 06-01-2006
Myspace???
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:41pm

Hi everyone,
I tried match.com for a week in August (I posted a couple times back then), but I just got wierded out by the concept of online dating. I went on one date and the guy was a freak, so I cancelled my membership that night. But also, I just didn't find anyone who really caught my eye on match.

Fast forward to last week...I set up a myspace account having no intention of using it to date. I have a sister in another state, so I wanted to be able to connect with her, share pictures, etc. Within hours of setting up my page I started getting emails and friend requests from all these guys in my area who want to date me. The outcome is far better than match, I get a better idea of who these people are because the pages are customized and you can read their interactions with other members, and best of all, these guys are mostly GOOD looking, intelligent and educated. I've only gotten a few freaks who have taken grainy and unflattering pictures of themselves in the mirror. Mostly the pictures are high quality and there are more of them. And its all FREE.

I'm not plugging myspace, I'm asking what the catch is. I feel like I've discovered a secret to online dating, but I haven't really seen anyone talk about it on this board (or maybe they have but I missed it - I did a search but didn't find anything). And I don't really think I have a secret...so what's the deal? What is wrong with myspace?

I have 2 dates tomorrow...one with a fireman and the other with a senior finacial analyst who has an MBA (OMG!). These guys both seem wonderful so far...is myspace too good to be true? Has anyone used it and discovered that it deserves the reputation it has received?

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In reply to: lostbee4
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:53pm

I don't know that there's any thing "wrong" with myspace as a way of meeting guys to date. It's not my cup of tea, personally, but if you're having luck with it, that's awesome. Good luck on your dates--let us know how they go!

Sheri

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Registered: 11-08-2006
In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 3:36pm

I hated match.com too. Just not working out for me, but i did have more success with date.com.

Perhaps, myspace.com is working out more because most people go there to connect with friends. So when you like on a friends page, you see their lists of friends. Its the whole networking idea.

But I don't trust myspace.com completely, because I know some people who go there exclusively to hook up with other people.

Online dating is tricky and you have to be careful because people aren't what they say they are online. There are lot of creeps out there but meet in public places. I dont recommend movies or bars because they are loud and you can't even hear yourself think.

Good luck with your dates.

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In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 4:30pm

Hi, there,


I use Myspace as well - most of my dance friends are on it, and we use it to basically keep in touch with eachother throughout the week (I prefer Myspace to regular email, personally).

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In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 7:59pm

Thanks everyone for your comments. I do like myspace better than the others, and Stacey, I agree that the networking thing is a great way to meet people. I even think it's better than meeting someone at random in a grocery store or at the gym. At least you know you have something in common with someone before going on a date with them.

So I'll use what works, and we'll see. So far it's rough, but you have to get through a hundred bad apples to find the good one, right?

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In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:58am
Yep, I'm still picking through the apples myself.

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In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 12:07pm

I did Match for 3 months, and had 1 guy that I even got close to going out with- so I know where you're coming from. The online thing was a little tough for me. I went into it thinking that I'm a pretty good catch :), and then it seemed like I never got interest from the people that I would have actually wanted to go out with. I'm not real good at rejection, and I'm also ridiculously picky, so I figured out that it wasn't really for me.

About a week after I ended my Match subscription, I met my current boyfriend on MySpace. He just randomly sent me an e-mail, I thought it was smart and funny, so I wrote back- and things progressed from there. The reason I think more people don't take advatage of the dating aspect of MySpace is because some people immediately associate that site with psychos and sexual predators because of the bad press it's gotten- and also because it's free. When I told a lot of my friends about how my bf and I met, they were like, "Oh I would have never wrote him back." And I just thought- why? We're all on there and we're not freaks! I just believe there are weird/sketchy people everywhere- and from my personal experience, it's no more true online than anywhere else. You just have to be cautious- like you would be in real life. The first time we met, it was in public, and I just trusted my instincts that he was a good guy and not a serial killer- and I was right :).

The advantage as I see it on MySpace- that you can't get on any other site- is the "reference" you kind of get from seeing a guy's friends. Not to say that the guy can't be a jerk and have friends, but I think when you read their page and see there pictures and comments, you get a pretty good idea of the types of people they hang out with. And, if they have porn stars in their Top 8, then I already know- not interested!

Good luck and let us know how everything turns out!

Erica