All I have to say about the rude comments- are that:
1. Because its anonymus- there's seems to be more of a tendency to be SO rude- something that wouldn't occure if you met that person in Real Life- they wouldn't have the GAUL to be that rude.
2. This guy was 6 years older than what you were looking for- not one or two- and I know people who are really picky- like someone has to be a certain height, etc. I think just like women, men hit a certain age when they can't get as many much younger women as they used to be- and they get rude and bitter online.
I'm 34- I ignore the guys that are in their 40's with 3+ kids (and marked in their profiles that they don't want more), are way different races, you name it- that I can't imagine having one thing in common!
I got the guilt trip email from that guy I dated a few times who then dropped off the planet so I closed the match, so he got pissed and sent me the I've been working 90 hours and on valentines day too and I was sick and how dare you close the match on me I can give you another chance if you want...after reading that guilt trip I wasn't really interested in it...If he had just written sorry I have just been so busy, I would have been like sure no problem but instead he tried to lay it all on my feet like how dare I close a match on him...NEXT!!!!
I think you might want to throw that guy on to the don't date him girl website.
I think it was the "I'm a Young 35" that was probably the part that put him over the edge...but none the less...life isn't fair...he was crude..it was wrong, not fair but life isn't fair he shouldn't have sent you back a nasty gram but you can't help it.
Well yeah if you say to someone, sorry I don't want to date you, your out of my age range and I consider myself a YOUNG 35...basically your saying to him he's an old fart...46 isn't old and 35 is hardly young compared to 46...so in his eyes he's going what is she even talking about she's 11 years younger than me it's not like she's 20...so I can see how he took that as insulting, whether you meant it that way or not, doesn't remotely EXCUSE his behavior, doesn't give him license to remotely say what he said to you, nor should he have even wrote you back. I think a simply no thank you would suffice, no real drawn out, explanation is needed.
He could party with the best of em too...I mean at 46 he could go out to clubs and party just like you, you know? I don't think the fact that you go to parties and clubs and stuff makes you a Young anything...you know what I mean?? Anyone can do that kind of thing, heck the Rolling stone are in the 60's and they all do that. LOL You wouldn't catch me dating them. HAHA!!!!
I'd take Sheri's advice on this one...don't respond especially if the guys in your area are nasty.
And that's exactly why I prefer the "ignore" as well.
In the majority of cases where I've sent a gracious "no thanks" email, I have (with the exception of two men) received a blunt response and/or interrogation as to why I didn't feel we were a ggod match.
Most recently, someone much shorter than my height preference responded. We're talking almost five inches here. Interestingly enough, he even mentioned in his email that he "was probably too short for me".
I sent him a polite response basically agreeing, light banter, and wished him well. He then responded with something about me being too "physically" oriented, not being open minded, etc.
Responses like that are the reason I will no longer respond. And for as much as I'd like to send a note, especially where it was clear they took the time to send a well thought initial email- I'm just not interested in receiving the typical rude follow up response.
Show a little maturity and class, guys. It really does go a long way.
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All I have to say about the rude comments- are that:
1. Because its anonymus- there's seems to be more of a tendency to be SO rude- something that wouldn't occure if you met that person in Real Life- they wouldn't have the GAUL to be that rude.
2. This guy was 6 years older than what you were looking for- not one or two- and I know people who are really picky- like someone has to be a certain height, etc. I think just like women, men hit a certain age when they can't get as many much younger women as they used to be- and they get rude and bitter online.
I'm 34- I ignore the guys that are in their 40's with 3+ kids (and marked in their profiles that they don't want more), are way different races, you name it- that I can't imagine having one thing in common!
OUCH!
Men can't handle their egos getting bruised.
I got the guilt trip email from that guy I dated a few times who then dropped off the planet so I closed the match, so he got pissed and sent me the I've been working 90 hours and on valentines day too and I was sick and how dare you close the match on me I can give you another chance if you want...after reading that guilt trip I wasn't really interested in it...If he had just written sorry I have just been so busy, I would have been like sure no problem but instead he tried to lay it all on my feet like how dare I close a match on him...NEXT!!!!
I think you might want to throw that guy on to the don't date him girl website.
Well yeah if you say to someone, sorry I don't want to date you, your out of my age range and I consider myself a YOUNG 35...basically your saying to him he's an old fart...46 isn't old and 35 is hardly young compared to 46...so in his eyes he's going what is she even talking about she's 11 years younger than me it's not like she's 20...so I can see how he took that as insulting, whether you meant it that way or not, doesn't remotely EXCUSE his behavior, doesn't give him license to remotely say what he said to you, nor should he have even wrote you back. I think a simply no thank you would suffice, no real drawn out, explanation is needed.
He could party with the best of em too...I mean at 46 he could go out to clubs and party just like you, you know? I don't think the fact that you go to parties and clubs and stuff makes you a Young anything...you know what I mean?? Anyone can do that kind of thing, heck the Rolling stone are in the 60's and they all do that. LOL You wouldn't catch me dating them. HAHA!!!!
I'd take Sheri's advice on this one...don't respond especially if the guys in your area are nasty.
Well, 11 years may not be a lot to you or to him, but it is to me!
What a loser, Vex.
And that's exactly why I prefer the "ignore" as well.
In the majority of cases where I've sent a gracious "no thanks" email, I have (with the exception of two men) received a blunt response and/or interrogation as to why I didn't feel we were a ggod match.
Most recently, someone much shorter than my height preference responded. We're talking almost five inches here. Interestingly enough, he even mentioned in his email that he "was probably too short for me".
I sent him a polite response basically agreeing, light banter, and wished him well. He then responded with something about me being too "physically" oriented, not being open minded, etc.
Responses like that are the reason I will no longer respond. And for as much as I'd like to send a note, especially where it was clear they took the time to send a well thought initial email- I'm just not interested in receiving the typical rude follow up response.
Show a little maturity and class, guys. It really does go a long way.
Edited 3/28/2006 1:10 am ET by happyjustme
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