NEED ADVICE!!! HELP!!

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Registered: 09-17-2005
NEED ADVICE!!! HELP!!
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Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:46am
Ok...so this is the situation: In the middle of May I joined match.com ...kinda as a joke thinking nothing would "really" happen. Well, about two weeks after becoming a member of the site I received an email from a very attractive man...went on to read his profile and all I could think was "OMG This man is perfect" ...well anyhow, except for where he lives ...1000 miles away. Well, regardless I gave him a screen name so we could chat occasionally just really expecting you know someone to pass time with online. Well, as the months have passed we have come closer and closer, its to the point we talk every night on the phone for two hours without a lull in the conversation wihle I am online for the night talking with friends,checking my email ect(it doesn't like take up my life or anything but you know if I'm home and whatever we will talk). Throughout this period, he has offered numerous times to come visit (which I had refused because I had try to convince myself the situation was "unrealistic") .... even though this man understood me better than anyone else ever has...I know that sounds really crazy trust me I hear myself. Anyhow, last month I finally gave into my heart and allowed him to make arrangements to come visit me where I live (him staying in a hotel of course) ... since I am planning on attending professional school in the area next year. Additionally, I know this sounds bad but he has a fair amount of cashflow (I don't mean this is a bad way) which would allow him to visit regularly if we did decide to continue the relationship, I know that sounds kind of bad but its not like I can afford the trips..and whats a relationship if you never see the other person?I guess I am wondering first of all if anyone has had a similar experience and has any advice, or if anyone has advice for cheap dates and whatnot..because I'm not very creative and I would like him to not have to spend an insane amount of money when he visits just for "dates" and whatnot. Thanks for your help!!


Edited 9/17/2005 11:08 am ET ET by txaggiefan
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:51am

I don't have any advice on LDR, but when is his first visit?

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