Need help with Yahoo experiment please

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Need help with Yahoo experiment please
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:13am

I want to figure out if Yahoo still allows non-paying members to get emails from paying members that include an email address (they did as recently as a few months ago, but I want to see if that has changed). Is there someone who has a profile on Yahoo but is not a subscriber who would be willing to let me email you on Yahoo? If so, you can email me through my profile here on Ivillage if you don't want to post your Yahoo username.

Alternatively, if someone who is a non-paying member has recently received an email from a subscriber that contained an email address, that would be helpful to know as well.

Thanks,
Sheri

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:49am

A dif't yahoo question. When I delete certain people who email me not all of them are elibable for a courtesy reply of why - is that because they aren't paying members? I paid for my membership although I have better luck on match.

Also when you do your own reply I find it annoying you have to type in the secret code - why do they do that? Can't they build in a better security? Half the time I mstaken the z's for 2's etc and its a pain.

Thx,
SP

 
 
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:54am

Hmmm...I don't know the answer to that. I know I have definitely received those *hateful* "courtesy" replies ;-) when I haven't been a subscriber so that's not the issue.

The word verification is to prevent spambots from posting or responding to ads. It is a pain and yes, I'd say about 1/3 of the time I mess up the word!

Sheri

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:06pm
90% of the men I send a courtesy reply to say "thank you for letting me know" either way. They appreciate it as they have an answer. For me it's easier, I might get 5 new emails all from duds, I hit delete and a courtesy I don't think we're a good match and good luck....it's easy for me and in turn they get their answer.
 
 
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:15pm

Good for them...personally, as you know, I hate getting them and I wish match and yahoo would get rid of that feature.

I *especially* hate getting the one that says "We are definitely not a good fit; good luck"...how condescending can you get!!! It always makes me feel like an idiot for having had the *audacity* to contact the guy in the first place when I get that reply.

Thankfully, most guys don't send anything at all, and that's the way, uh-huh, uh-huh, I like it ;-)!!!

Sheri

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:25pm

I was surprised I was getting a positive response from that no thanks and good luck but they are so happy so I keep doing it, ha :-) maybe the men like it better then women, dunno? You would think they would give more options. HOw about a thanks for writing me but although you have an impressive profile I feel we wouldn't make a good match"....or something to that affect. I feel the need to send it because 50% of them will keep writing me once a week if they don't get a response so it's better to knick it.

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:32pm

Yes, I can see why you'd need to do it with the clueless folks who keep writing to you. What's up with that????

Sheri

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:05pm

That is really awful. Was the word "definitely" necessary? It's been a while since I did yahoo; I don't think that canned reply was an option when I was on it; I'd remember it, lol.
The "keep looking" on match totally bites. It made me hesitant about sending out winks and emails, especially several at a time. That's just what you want to see in your inbox -- a bunch of "keep looking" emails!

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:21pm

Exactly...it's the "definitely" that is particularly offensive!

And yes, I now hate checking my inbox on yahoo when I see I have a message, because it could be one of those "thanks but no thanks" messages. That's NOT what I want in my inbox!

Sheri

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 2:29pm

Jumping in a little late, I totally agree about the canned responses, I would prefer to get no response rather than a canned one and I don't usually send them (see below) . I'm like you Sheri, I find the "definitely" one condescending and see no reason to send it to someone you've had not communication with.

However, I did send my first one recently. It was to a guy I had a first meet with about 2 years ago. Evidently he didn't remember me and surely didn't remember that I was back in my car within 20 mins after saying hello. He is currently tied for #1 on my list of worst first meets...A 300lb out of shape man wearing more chains than Mr. T is not my Mr. Right. He got the "We are definitely not a match" canned response. I felt like it was fair after he deceived me the first time. Then I blocked him.

Libra

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 2:57pm

Good for you Libra, sending him that response since he was a deceiver! I hate that response also and don't send it, but in this case I think it was appropriate! I rarely send any of the canned responses and prefer the no contact way of ending it myself.

Someone on here had said that they think guys like to get the canned responses or no thank you emails rather than no response at all, and I think they may be right. The whiney voiced guy I was debating what to do about, well I sent him an email saying that he was a very nice guy but that I had started seeing someone and wanted to give it a chance and wished him a very nice summer. He wrote back saying he appreciated my honesty and that it was refreshing on here and wished me luck.

So I think it may be a case of we as women assume it is over when we don't get a response and we move on, but men, I think, like that concrete closure of knowing it's done. So even though the canned response or no thank you email is a rejection, it's right there and no guessing anymore for them.

I wish there was a nice way to reject someone...

Sunshine

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