need an honest opinion

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Registered: 06-27-2005
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Fri, 07-08-2005 - 9:21pm
Lets say I really like this guy and he will be 40 in a couple of months, never been married, busy career. What are the odds he will seriously involve himself with a single mother of a 9 yo?
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 2:32pm
Wow Sparkle. You have restraint girl, I probably would have pounced after 2 years.
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Registered: 01-01-2004
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 3:50pm

Can you tell I've had years of therapy?

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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 4:25pm
I'm going to the beach tommorow, but you are correct it is a really beautiful day today. I have been in doing laundry and getting ready for the work week because the weathermen said it would be crappy (shocking they were wrong) but that's okay I just watched White Noise. SCARY! I'm so glad I watched it during the day.
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Sun, 07-10-2005 - 12:47am

You mentioned that you live near Worcester.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 7:26am
Up to NH it's an hour to my aunts and then she'll drive to the beach.
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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 9:00am

Really, Amjay? That totally shocks me because my experience has been the opposite. (Though aren't you in Canada? Maybe Canadian men are different, LOL.) I've been on match for a year and almost every guy in my age range (40-50) says they don't want kids, even if they already have them. In fact some guys are so vehement about it, they put it in their essay too, in addition to answering "none" to the question.

This is fine by me since I don't have kids and don't want any. I used to think I'd have no problem dating a guy who had sole custody but after dating a couple of those, I realize it would be a lot tougher than I thought. Also, I had no idea how much some guys pay in child support and once I found out, I totally understood why they didn't want more kids.
(The guy I'm dating now has dogs but no kids. Works for me :)

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Registered: 05-03-2005
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 9:21am
I guess in the age range I have been looking (25-35), a lot of them say they would rather not date anyone that has kids, especially if they don't have any themselves. Another problem I run across is if they don't have kids themselves, they usually want kids of their own later on down the road. My son is 8. I am done with that! Myself, I would rather date a guy with 1 or 2 kids; just so it helps to eliminate the possibility of him wanting more children.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 10:29am

icarrie -- great to read you again!!

I was referring to "any" as in "have kids already". This makes sense, as the majority of women in that same range have kids.

You are right, though, the men in that range do not want any more kids. Suits me as well.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 10:59am
Ladies,
I think this lawyer man thinks he is such a great catch that even at almost 40 he is looking for someone who is gorgeous, smart, no kids, good job/money. I don't know if I can live up to these expectations. I decided to take it as it goes. He doesn't know it but I am giving him 2 weeks to get his S*** together and prove to me that he is the one I WANT to date. If I see him on-line in 2 weeks - he is a goner.
How about this?
By the way, I am loving this board because I can talk here and count on an objective opinion!
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 11:06am
OMG, this guy is SUCH a lawyer! Ya gotta watch out for those potential liabilities, eh?