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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:02am

The guy I have been dating is on 24 hour call today (he's been on call since last wed). He said that he would like to do something after he gets off call (which is Wed.). I am out of town till Friday night, so we can't do anything till at least Sat.

I think it would be nice if he would acknowledge something today. Either in the form of sending flowers or just stopping by with some from the grocery store. He can always leave if he gets called.

I am wondering if my expectations are out of whack. We've been on 5 dates.

Thanks for the input!!

Claribeth

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In reply to: cbmroz
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:11am

Well, I think a "Happy Valentines Day" over the phone and MAYBE an e-card would be more realistic expectations for this early on, especially since it sounds like he was planning to defer any celebration until you see each other. If he gets you flowers today, great, but I really would not be holding my breath in your shoes.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: cbmroz
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:40am

I'm with Sheri (as usual!). I think flowers or something this early on are a little much but yes, a call or card would be nice. I have a friend that has been seeing a guy for about 2 weeks. He asked her on their first date if he should buy her flowers for Valentine's day. She told him no b/c they would have only really known each other a couple of weeks. I think it totally freaked her out because it is moving faster than she is comfortable with. As it is, he is taking her to dinner and she thinks he is buying her a movie (she is a movie buff) and that freaks her out.

I think this stupid holiday puts a lot of pressure on both parties when you are in a very new dating relationship. So don't expect a lot and don't be disappointed if he doesn't make a big deal out of it but instead just be pleasantly surprised if he does something nice. See what happens this weekend on the date.




Edited 2/14/2005 11:02 am ET ET by vexer_hw

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: cbmroz
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:50am
Too early to read into anything whatsoever. Don't get hung up on it. The guy probably doesn't know what to do. Next year he better get you something good though...
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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: cbmroz
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 2:47pm

I agree with the others, it might be too soon. On the other hand, as another poster stated he could be planning something for Saturday. You didn't mention what time of work he does, but if he's on-call as a resident/dr at a hospital he probably doesn't have alot of time to do anything about V Day until his call ends.

It's probably just the romantic inside of you hoping for a little something today.

Do something special for yourself today. Put a big smile on your own face. You know what will make you happy, that way you don't have to worry about being dissappointed. :)