Need inspiration

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Need inspiration
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 6:35pm

We have ALL been there. We're replying to the zillionth email reply for your online personal ad. The person says "ask me anything" but your mind goes blank because you've gone through this MILLIONS of times, so it seems.

Let's make a master database of interesting (not the same ol' same ol') things to ask a potential suitor to help us when our brains go numb.

I'm facing that today.

HELP!

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 1:54am

Hi travkitty,

I get inspiration from their profile: If they say they have been to germany, I'd ask them when they went, what palces they vistited... etc. or what other places they want to visit... If they say they love hiking, I'd ask them where they like going hiking, so on so forth... I'd imagine I am talking to them, literally, adn respond to things they have said in their emails/profiles...

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 6:44am
I'm talking about guys with vague profiles or whose profiles don't blow me away, yet don't totally turn me off, either. I'm trying to get away from the "what do you do for fun" type questions. I'm turning into a zombie here.
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Registered: 03-26-2006
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 9:55am
Here are some of my favorites:
If you were abducted by aliens and they allowed you to take three earthly items with you, what would you choose? -shows what's important to them
Do you like riding roller coasters?-shows whether or not they have a sense of adventure and if they can overcome fears
Do you consider yourself romantic-I like to be romanced, so this is an important one for me.
Those are just a couple. I think Eharmony has some pretty good get to know you questions. If you have subscribed there, I'd borrow some of theirs. If not, I can post some of those questions here if you'd like.
I'll add that I think the depth of the questions should depend on what you're looking for and the deeper questions might be asked either in person or later in the communication. As mentioned before on this board, I agree with not putting a whole heck of alot of energy into the emails written prior to meeting because you'll be bummed if you put alot of energy into emails and they ghost. I learned that one the hard way.
Good luck