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| Sun, 11-26-2006 - 7:30pm |
I am currently trying OLD, but due to my hectic schedule, I can only allocate a certain amount of time to contacting and meeting people. A guy contacted me, and I looked at his profile. I am sure he is a great guy for someone, but I didn't find him attractive, he lives almost an hour away from me, and I didn't see any common interests in his profile. In short, there was nothing to spark my interest, although he did fit into the general category of what I am looking for. I replied to him with a No thank you. And he replied back saying that he thinks we are a good match, and wants to know why I didn't think so. Is this normal? I don't want to be mean, but do I need to respond? I feel on the defensive here. How do you choose who to pursue?

No, you don't need to respond. It really annoys me when people try to argue with you--that's part of the reason I don't send "thanks but no thanks" emails as a rule.
Sheri
OMG - I HATE it when they do that! The only thing it does is confirm that you've made the right choice. I agree with the others - do not respond!
In general, I think responding at all is just rubbing it in their face that you aren't interested. I feel bad doing it, so I just delete their email and hope they get the hint. However, on the flip side, I appreciate it when guys tell me "no thanks" because I very rarely make the initial contact, so when I do it is someone that I feel I would truly be compatible with. So, I would like to know why he's passing, even if just out of curiosity and I'm sure a lot of guys feel the same way. Unfortunately, the wierdos ruin it for everyone.
Ugh!