Need to Learn to take My Own Advice

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Need to Learn to take My Own Advice
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 10:06am
Well, it looks like my good ol' yearly try at dating has ended the way it usually does! I have been out with this guy from Kansas twice and thought things were going good. He would email and call me fairly regularly. He even called me this past weekend when he went home to visit his daughter.
I made the mistake of asking HIM if he wanted to get together this week. We agreed on Thursday. I also made the mistake of asking HIM if he wanted to go with me and some friends to Ft. Worth next weekend. He was always talking about how he wanted me to show him all the sights in the area, so we thought we would show him around!
This morning I got an email this morning cancelling tonight's date and no mention of re-scheduling. He said he was too tired. I am betting he has met someone else. I should have followed my own advice and let HIM do the asking!!
Dating at the age of 42 is so HARD!
Stephanie
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Registered: 11-20-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:20pm

Hi texas mom,

I am mostly a lurker, but I happen to be a "Texas mom" myself (grew up in Fort Worth!), so I felt compelled to reply to ya. I am 39, have only been divorced since May....and I agree that dating at "our age" is hard! There are presently two guys I am seeing occasionally, each of whom I met thru OLD. Each knows I will be "child-free" this coming weekend, yet neither has called to make plans with me. I would sooo love to have a date this weekend!! I am tempted to pick up the phone and call one or both of these guys, but I am forcing myself NOT to do it. It's not like either of them forgot my number....

I am sorry your guy cancelled your date, but you never know.....you may very well hear from him again. If not, it wasn't meant to be in the first place! Hang in there --

mpjcmom

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 9:17am
Thanks for the encouraging words! The only reason I asked HIM was because he kept telling me he really didn't know what all to go do in the area and wanted me to show him around. He also said he knew I have kids and would work around my schedule.
You are right, I may hear from him again and I may not. Only time will tell!
Stephanie
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Registered: 04-07-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:34am

Don't give up so easily...give the poor man a chance.

F

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:51am
lol! Yeah, I know! One of my best friends is a guy that I have known since 8th grade. He told me to get a grip and stop being so negative! I had a very bad experience when I first started dating. I met someone and we dated for 6 months. He was deployed to Iraq and strung me along for 9 months. Then he just "disappeared", and it freaked me out. I then got an email from his WIFE! He met her while doing training before deploying. So, I will admit that it left me pretty skeptical. It's something that I know I need to work on and I am trying!
Stephanie
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Registered: 08-07-2005
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 2:46pm

Hi Texas,

The problem was not you asking him. The problem was HIM. I am 42 years old also. I am on match.com. I have been chatting with some interesting men. No expectations. I might one of them tonight. 49 years old...never been married. I wonder what's up with that!

Chin up,

Bunny

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:11pm
Thanks! Let us know how things pan out! I feel alot better today. Sometimes you just need people to point you in the right direction and give you a little perspective.
Stephanie