need more info on this

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Registered: 05-12-2003
need more info on this
Sun, 07-06-2003 - 10:44am
I was considering maybe using online personals. I am in my mid twenties and most of my friends are married and can't go out all the time the same way we used to. I don't meet as many guys anymore. I've thought about maybe volunteering. Another of my married friends suggested that I go to church to look for someone. Sounds like a good idea but you can meet so many hypocrites or they can be religious fanatics. On the whole religion topic, I'm more spiritual and not a regular church goer.

I like the idea of placing an ad, b.c. I can be very specific about what I'm looking for, but I don't want people that I know at work or other acquaintances seeing my picture on a dating site. That only leaves a couple of options: 1) placing an ad without a pic. which probably won't get viewed or 2) responding to ads.

Can anyone offer any suggestions/advice? Thanks.


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Registered: 05-31-2003
Sun, 07-06-2003 - 11:59am
I don't see anything wrong in going to online personals in search of finding someone. Lots of people here, including myself, have met people via the internet whether it was through a chat room, a dating website, online personal, etc. If you really want to safeguard yourself, why not try responding to ads first? That way, if you like the way he looks and you're interested, you can also send your pic to him (if you wish).

On the other hand, I understand about being leery in placing your own picture for your own personal ad. However, does it bother you that someone you know might actually see your pic online and judge you OR is taking a chance in finding a great guy more important to you?

Why not start off with responding to ads and see how that works for you. I know of people who've done this and had a lot of fun reading about people (and what they had to say in their profiles). Whatever you decide, good luck! And know you are not alone in your search for someone special ;)

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 9:32am
Welcome to our board. I would have to say, it is a good idea doing personals, since you can be more specific about what you want and hopefully others can do the same. It is an easier way to find a match then in person at a bar. I would say there are alot of things to keep in mind when you do place an ad. There are alot of freaks out there for one. lol PLus, dont get too excited about someone right off if they match your requirements, meeting in person is still very important. You click on line, then meet and see if you click in person. Then, go from there, normal dating style. Just keep all the factors of on line dating in mind while doing ads and such. I wish you the best of luck and remember it can be fun doing personals on line. Go with it, but be careful as you do.

Gail :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 10:35am
I personally would not do on line dating without a picture because many people - and I think this is fine - browse past those ads since so many pics are available - men are a little more visual than women, I think. I would definitely do volunteer work and lose the negative attitude about church. I have met close to 50 men in person through on line services, and emailed with hundreds - if you don't have a positive, refreshing attitude and a really thick skin - it is NOT for you. What I do suggest is emailing no more than 2 or 3 times prior to meeting to decrease the likelihood of either or both of you creating a fantasy image of the other. And, meet in a public place, and do not go in the same car on the first date for any reason.