Need Some Advice

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Registered: 12-19-2005
Need Some Advice
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Fri, 02-02-2007 - 2:16am

I had been talking to this guy from an online dating site and we decided to meet last weekend. Well, the date seemed to go well. We met for drinks and talked for hours and he wanted to do something after we left the restaurant, but it was late and not much was open. He said that he definitely wanted to go out with me again. When we were leaving the restaurant he was hugging me and holding my hand and told me that I was very pretty. He was acting interested. Well, it has been nearly 6 days now and he hasn't called. I was thinking that maybe I should just call him and tell him that I head a nice time last week, but don't know if I should. I am a little confused right now because when we met he was acting interested and I expected to hear from him by now. Has this happened to anyone else? What should I do? I really thought that this guy had some potential and I am very disappointed right now.

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Registered: 12-19-2005
Sat, 02-24-2007 - 4:38am
Once again you are speaking for all men. How would you know what is going on in another man's head and what he is thinking? You don't. Just like I can't get into another woman's head and know what she is thinking.
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Registered: 12-19-2005
Sat, 02-24-2007 - 4:50am
I think that if a guy isn't that interested in a woman than he shouldn't be telling her that she is sexy, pretty, and nice, and that he Definitely wants to go out with her again. Along with the fact that he is holding her hand. These things to me show that a guy is into a woman and then when he doesn't call it seems strange. Maybe it doesn't seem strange to you but to me it does.
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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 11:27am

I've seen it happen too many times to be "wrong".

You may not agree or believe it's true for YOU, but that doesn't make me "wrong".

There are any number of books out there by MALE authors that say basically the same thing--that timing and having his ducks in a row is crucial to a man before he is able to be in a serious relationship. Are they all wrong too? And all the male friends and male posters on these boards who have said the same thing?




Edited 2/24/2007 11:35 am ET by northwestwanderer
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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 2:21pm

I am confused about what you consider as being an "inconsiderate jerk?" From your original post, I did not read anything about this guy promising anything or making any solid plans with you that he blew off.

You also mentioned how "guys" play games but I do not read any specific examples on what this guy has done. If you mean games as in he really showing a lot of interest on your date but not following up afterwards as "games?"

Mark

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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 3:05pm

He did make tentative plans with me about a week later for the following day and then no phone call to even say that he couldn't get together that day. I do consider that to be incosiderate. I wouldn't do that to someone else. I would at least call to say that I couldn't do something that day or evening. I can't get into every detail about what happened on this board. He answered my ad which says that I am looking for dating to a LTR, so I assumed that he was looking for the same. After the fact I read his ad which states that he is looking for friendship first, no pressure, and that he wants to have fun. There is nothing in his ad stating that he is looking for the same as me and I really don't know why he answered my ad to begin with, but it is my fault for not paying better attention to what his ad said. Next time I will. I am sort of feeling like I am being put on the defense here, I really don't feel like the way he acted was right and I do feel that he acted inconsiderate. I would expect a 38 year man to be more mature and honest about things. Are my expectations to High? I don't think so.

Karalyn

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