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|Sat, 06-13-2009 - 12:58pm|
Okay, where to start. I met this girl on match.com in December. We exchanged e-mails back and forth and met for a coffee drink in the 31st of December. Everything was going I assumed well. Speed past to the sixth date. At her home I brought the question up where is this going. Reason being, when she come over to my house for dinner she was a bit ancy and figity on the third date. Anyways, at the end of the date, we kissed twice and I said would you like to do something for Valentines day. She said, awe thats so sweet and said yes. I made plans and e-mailed them to her. I live in Manhattan she lives (just bought a apt) in Connecticut. Then, that Monday, she looked at my profile again. Weird, cause she had not looked at it since December. E-mailed her to see how everything is going, she said great. I then got some basketball tickets and IM'd her if she'd like to go. Never responded. That got me thinking something was wrong. Anyway, on that Friday, she was going to come over and we were to go out to dinner and some entertainment. I e-mailed her on Thursday, and she said, at first yes. Then said well, I am tutoring Friday and then have something early on Monday and she suggested we should cancel cause she did not think we would have enough time together. Mind you this was like 24 hours before the set date. I said OK. Did you want me to cancel Valentine's day too? She IM'd four hours later and said yes. Two weeks later she e-mailed me saying she had great times with me, but did not feel that explosion in her stomach with me that she was looking for. Keep in mind, all we've been doing is dinner and movies. Replied back and she never replied back to my next e-mail.
Forward two months later. I still cannot stop thinking about her. I had this event coming up in May which was for one of the women she looks up too. Didn't cost me anything and e-mailed her to see if she would like to go. E-mailed back the next day and said thank you and it would be a great date. We should speak before the event. I replied back and said I am surprised you wanted to go. If I thought you would had said yes before, I would had invited you to another event back in April. Anyways, she's always hard to get on the phone and most conversations were out of IM text or e-mail. So I said in the e-mail since you are always very busy and hard to get a hold of, call me when you get a chance so we can go over things. She never called or e-mailed back.
Now, I know she is still looking, as she keeps on changing her profile on Match like crazy. Seems no one is good enough for her. Her exact quote on her profile is I have met some really great guys, but no one who really gives me that explosion in my stomach. That is what I am looking for.
Bare in mind, I still, after all this time cannot stop thinking of her. Every date I go on I compare her to them and they do not add up. Since I am like never in CT its going to be hard to bump into her. So, what do I do? Everyone is telling me to forget about her, which I've tried, but it does not work. Ideally, I would like to get her back. I mean the last date we had in Feb. she was holding my hand, kissed twice (though on the second one she kissed my nose instead of my lips) and even said she found me interesting and intriguing. How can that turn into what really happened weeks after? I really thought there was a good chance when she replied back and said yes to the even in May. But then, silence after that.
Really confused and do not know what to do.