Nervous about 1st Date

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Nervous about 1st Date
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 8:50am

Hi all...

I have a first date with a guy today that I met just last night. I mentioned in another thread a little about him, and how we met...OLD, hit it off great via email and then talked on the phone for 7 hours last night...lol. Seems like I'm 16 again on that one.

Problem is, I haven't met anyone from OLD in a few years, and I'm really nervous. I used to be so conditioned on this, and now I guess I'm out of practice. I wouldn't even be nervous if this guy & I didn't click so well at first!

I think alot of my nervousness stems from the fact that fitness is very important to me, but I've been out of the gym for a while now, until just a few weeks ago, so I have some improving to do. And he on the other hand used to be a personal trainer, and is very very fit, etc...He tells me he is not superficial at all, and gave me some legitimate examples, but I'm still worried how he's going to view my somewhat out of shape self. I know if he wants to diss me because I have a couple extra pounds that he's not a good guy for me, but I can't help but be a little nervous. How silly is this?

I guess I'm just venting more than anything, because I'm going to meet up with him in a couple of hours, and my friends don't approve of the whole OLD thing, so I can't really talk to them about it. So, thanks for listening, and I'm off to begin a new adventure!!

M


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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 9:33am

Ok, I want you to stop. Take a deep breathe. Hold it. In with the good, out with the bad.... Repeat. :o)


You've been in the OLD game before, you know to not expect anything and be cautiously optimistic. Believe in yourself. You are a catch and any man that does not see that is a fool!


Good luck and let us know how it goes.


Kerry


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Registered: 02-20-2006
Sun, 03-12-2006 - 2:49pm
Hey, hope it was fun, let us know!
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 3:48pm

Well, I just got back from the first date. We had a great time! Or, I did anyway, and he said he did...We really didn't do anything other than shop, which I have never done on a first date, so it was neat. Upon parting, he said something about getting together to watch the basketball game later tonight. I don't know if I will accept the invitation, because I don't want to spend too much time with him in the beginning. I find that if I do that, I get sick of the guy real fast for some reason, but when I feel like I don't get enough of them I just keep wanting to go back for more, and that is what I want! He seems to be a truly wonderful guy with his head on straight...so we will see. Of course I can't help but think that's too good to be true, but I'm hoping this time I'm wrong!!

Thanks everyone for reading!

M


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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 4:13pm
Not sure if you are looking for opinions . . . if you're not stop reading now, LOL, but if you are . . . personally I wouldn't accept the invite for tonight. In the beginning you discover your feelings for each other as much when you are apart as when you are together and if you are around each other too much you don't have time for that. Just my two pesos. :)
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 4:33pm

Very good point Orchid...thanks! Not sure if I was looking for opinions either, but I always welcome them! lol

I just know that (only after one day) from what I can tell, he seems like a decent guy...better than any that I've dated in the last 2 years, so I would like to keep him around. And I know me well enough to know that spending too much time with someone in the beginning makes me sick of a person real quick!

Thanks!!
M


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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 10:07pm
Yep - me too!