There is no prince charming. They're all lyin' SOBs lookin' for the bigger better deal. The more I read everyone's stories of OLD along with my own experiences, the more I believe this to be true.
I believe that there are good men out there that are not just trying to charm the pants off us as they pass through our world, looking for the bigger better deal.
Okay, I tend to agree with Linda. Another deal is to prioritize this where it Belongs..and that is Much further down the 'life list' than we usually let it reside.
I SWEAR it happens like this: IF you put these people out of your mind, they turn up like crazy! This afternoon, I had a training client, then there were a lot of my pals at the gym, so we all worked out and talked, then decided to head out for coffee...I get in my car and..guess what? V'mail from New Tall One (who saw me at the restaurant and I did not see him, last weekend), who has been gone on biz and said he'd call when he got back, he did! Called back and we made a date for early next week, per our schedules, he sounds cool...so far. Just return emailed another good prospect--Hide and watch, they will both want a date on the same day..Feast or Famine!
Note to self: "So far"...Always keep that in mind, it is all we can do! Take care of you, your loved ones and friends, and have a good life. Amen Up in da' house!
"You do what you have to do, to get what you need" Need? I dunno, now...Desire...oh yeahhhhh!
I know you were trying to be funny. I'm sorry I rained on your parade. Not nice of me. I took out my crappy week on your post. My bad.
Half the men I work with, most of the men I've dated and had relationships with, and a lot of the men that are married or dating my gal pals are lyin' sacks of you know what. It makes me glad I'm single - I'm serious. I have given up. It brings to tears to my eyes to say that but I can't take one more heartbreak. Not one more. To believe in someone with every fiber of your being and then have it not be true - I would NEVER do that to anyone! But since it's happened to me most of my dating life, I deduct that men think it's A-OK to do whatever they want to women because we're not taken seriously as human beings. Isn't that sad? We're way better off than our foremothers (praise them!) and women in other countries that's for sure. But why is it I'm almost 40, making great money, have a loving, caring family, lots of friends, hobbies, and I blow off every guy that shows interest? Because why bother? They're just gonna lie to me anyways.
I'm not very optimistic these days on finding Mr. Right because I had thought I found him so many times before. I used to jump out of bed in the mornings and say "bring it on" - what will today bring? Excited to get out of bed. Now I feel like a robot. It's what happens when you're heart is broken.
Believe me, hon, I know exactly how you feel. It's like we just exist. I don't know about you, but I just don't have any "joy" in my life anymore. To steal from a song...."My Give a Damn's Busted". I get up, go to work and go through the motions, come home, cater to Momzilla, go to bed and get up and do it all over again the next day. Nothing changes, and since Momzilla will probably live to 116 (LOL!), this will probably be my life for the next 20 years.
That is the new theme song here on Planet Cupcake..especially love where she says "aww,c'mon man, gimme somethin' I can Work with here!". Amen! Before that, the official song was "I'm Here for the Party".
Says it all...go on about your life, find the good and move forward..do NOT drag negative things around with you. I suggest you all get the book "Date Like A Man"--forgot the author, but I will look it up, if need be, for y'all. It is a dating Bible! ie, Go, Have Fun, get Admired, Come home. Stick a fork in you, you are Done. No more expectations than that. I have been doing that since Mr. Life Magazine dumped me in that loco email at Xmas time, and I LOVE it!
There are some things you Have to take control of, and your true happiness is one of them! No more cutesy little calls or emails from me, "tee hee, do you think/maybe/kinda? that you like me? Do I need to Remind you of it?"--that is exactly what those little missives Say! No mas! / Like me--cool. Don't? Your bad! / I used this attitude before I married a Looong time ago: "If you like me, call me again,if you don't, Don't!". Sometimes the old school ways just do the trick!
I do have to say that when I lived up North (PA)I was Much more prone to depressive feelings like that..the 'endless winter' thing--y'all need to come South, we are right in the middle of Mardi Gras, Houston Rodeo and days where you can lie by the Pool if ya want! Aiight!
And weren't you the one hoping Mr. Gone for Business for Two Days would call you while he was away? If you truly have that attitude, you wouldn't have gave a crap whether he called or not.
I agree with you. But it would be nice to work with good men, to know that girlfriends are dating and married to good men, and to look back on relationships and know that I wasn't lied to or misled throught the whole deal. Only one boyfriend was a good one out of many.
I'm on the pity pot and I'm sorry. I trust no one with a d&&k.
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Ok, so the IM guy did contact me again this afternoon.
There is no prince charming. They're all lyin' SOBs lookin' for the bigger better deal. The more I read everyone's stories of OLD along with my own experiences, the more I believe this to be true.
Lisa
Lisa,
I believe that there are good men out there that are not just trying to charm the pants off us as they pass through our world, looking for the bigger better deal.
Howdy (yes, we do say that in Texas at times!),
Okay, I tend to agree with Linda. Another deal is to prioritize this where it Belongs..and that is Much further down the 'life list' than we usually let it reside.
I SWEAR it happens like this: IF you put these people out of your mind, they turn up like crazy! This afternoon, I had a training client, then there were a lot of my pals at the gym, so we all worked out and talked, then decided to head out for coffee...I get in my car and..guess what? V'mail from New Tall One (who saw me at the restaurant and I did not see him, last weekend), who has been gone on biz and said he'd call when he got back, he did! Called back and we made a date for early next week, per our schedules, he sounds cool...so far. Just return emailed another good prospect--Hide and watch, they will both want a date on the same day..Feast or Famine!
Note to self: "So far"...Always keep that in mind, it is all we can do! Take care of you, your loved ones and friends, and have a good life. Amen Up in da' house!
"You do what you have to do, to get what you need" Need? I dunno, now...Desire...oh yeahhhhh!
Truly,
Cupcake
I know you were trying to be funny. I'm sorry I rained on your parade. Not nice of me. I took out my crappy week on your post. My bad.
Half the men I work with, most of the men I've dated and had relationships with, and a lot of the men that are married or dating my gal pals are lyin' sacks of you know what. It makes me glad I'm single - I'm serious. I have given up. It brings to tears to my eyes to say that but I can't take one more heartbreak. Not one more. To believe in someone with every fiber of your being and then have it not be true - I would NEVER do that to anyone! But since it's happened to me most of my dating life, I deduct that men think it's A-OK to do whatever they want to women because we're not taken seriously as human beings. Isn't that sad? We're way better off than our foremothers (praise them!) and women in other countries that's for sure. But why is it I'm almost 40, making great money, have a loving, caring family, lots of friends, hobbies, and I blow off every guy that shows interest? Because why bother? They're just gonna lie to me anyways.
I'm not very optimistic these days on finding Mr. Right because I had thought I found him so many times before. I used to jump out of bed in the mornings and say "bring it on" - what will today bring? Excited to get out of bed. Now I feel like a robot. It's what happens when you're heart is broken.
Lisa
Lisa,
Believe me, hon, I know exactly how you feel. It's like we just exist. I don't know about you, but I just don't have any "joy" in my life anymore. To steal from a song...."My Give a Damn's Busted". I get up, go to work and go through the motions, come home, cater to Momzilla, go to bed and get up and do it all over again the next day. Nothing changes, and since Momzilla will probably live to 116 (LOL!), this will probably be my life for the next 20 years.
Hang in there......ABM
Hi AnnB,
That is the new theme song here on Planet Cupcake..especially love where she says "aww,c'mon man, gimme somethin' I can Work with here!". Amen! Before that, the official song was "I'm Here for the Party".
Says it all...go on about your life, find the good and move forward..do NOT drag negative things around with you. I suggest you all get the book "Date Like A Man"--forgot the author, but I will look it up, if need be, for y'all. It is a dating Bible! ie, Go, Have Fun, get Admired, Come home. Stick a fork in you, you are Done. No more expectations than that. I have been doing that since Mr. Life Magazine dumped me in that loco email at Xmas time, and I LOVE it!
There are some things you Have to take control of, and your true happiness is one of them! No more cutesy little calls or emails from me, "tee hee, do you think/maybe/kinda? that you like me? Do I need to Remind you of it?"--that is exactly what those little missives Say! No mas! / Like me--cool. Don't? Your bad! / I used this attitude before I married a Looong time ago: "If you like me, call me again,if you don't, Don't!". Sometimes the old school ways just do the trick!
I do have to say that when I lived up North (PA)I was Much more prone to depressive feelings like that..the 'endless winter' thing--y'all need to come South, we are right in the middle of Mardi Gras, Houston Rodeo and days where you can lie by the Pool if ya want! Aiight!
I hope you all feel better soon! :)
Truly,
Cupcake
And weren't you the one hoping Mr. Gone for Business for Two Days would call you while he was away? If you truly have that attitude, you wouldn't have gave a crap whether he called or not.
Lisa
Here's the deal, gals:
I agree with you. But it would be nice to work with good men, to know that girlfriends are dating and married to good men, and to look back on relationships and know that I wasn't lied to or misled throught the whole deal. Only one boyfriend was a good one out of many.
I'm on the pity pot and I'm sorry. I trust no one with a d&&k.
Lisa
Edited 2/19/2005 1:04 pm ET ET by lisapeake
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