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Never snoop unless you are prepared for
| Wed, 01-24-2007 - 1:11pm |
what you may find.
I could kick myself. It was a momentary lapse in ... well, everything I want to be! (honest, adult, not sneaky) ... & when Carlos was in the shower this morning at my house, I looked at his text messages. Pure & simple, I snooped. & I didnt like what I found.


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One thing too is don't let too many cooks spoil the soup as the old saying goes Rebecca.
I think you should just go with your initial gut feelings on the subject. While it's great to get our opinions here, and your friends opinions and half of RI and Boston and Canada's opinions (I'm way exaggerating for a chuckle) too many opinions tend to muddy the waters sometimes, only YOU know yourself and Carlos and you have to do whats right for you and nobody else. So while Joe Schmoe down the street may think Carlos is thinking this because he said XY and Z doesn't necessarily mean that's what Carlos is thinking only Carlos knows what Carlos is thinking.
So I definitely think just go with your gut, talk to him and that will be the best direction for the two of you.
GOOD LUCK!!!! HUGS! =)
And I will say I don't think NWW nor I think you have a bad character at ALL and I think I can speak for NWW when I say that.
Smile,
Deirdre
Yes, you can definitely speak for me on that...especially since I said exactly that in one of my posts ;-).
Rebecca, it sounds like you've given this a lot of thought and have good reasons for coming out where you've come out and I totally respect. Keep us posted on how things go.
Sheri
Canadian perspective here...lol....
Ok...Maya Angelou always says, "Believe a man when he tells you who he is." It's been MY experience that when a man says, " I don't want to let you down..." lol...he's about to do just that...
anyhow, here's my take...MAKE HIM MISS YOU for a while. No texting, e-mailing, phone calls etc.. for at least a week. Ghost on him... you're busy...Avery has lessons to go to...work...you forgot your phone at home...whatever...just don't always be so darned available...
this dude needs to know what a great chick he'll miss.
Keri
I hope things work out for Rebecca. She seems to really be crazy about Carlos. But my experience is, ahem...that when a man is of a certain age, especially mid-late 40s and never married, there is usually a good reason. Most of these men have MAJOR committment issues. Not all, mind you, but most.
I'm pretty leery of dating men who have never made the committment to marry by this age. I personally think that Rebecca is a beautiful, intelligent, vibrant woman who doesn't need to waste too much time trying to conjure what this man wants.
I know I'm hardly one to talk, being divorced as long as I have been and not really connecting with the right guy. However, in viewing the people I know and are in great relationships...most didn't have to cipher or worry about whether the man was committed. It was obvious. And is that which I hold out for. Otherwise, I believe it is my lot to be alone.
lol, about the "be unavaliable". I actually began that Fri morning
Yeah, i really never thought of it that way b4, that maybe he thinks he "isnt ready" b/c he thinks I am not ready. Its a toss up.
Ok, i was totally clueless on what NWW was .... till I kept reading, lol.
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