New age limits on POF

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Registered: 11-28-1999
New age limits on POF
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Wed, 05-22-2013 - 11:31am

I was surprised when I logged on to POF yesterday (since I don't look at it that much) that I got an email from the founder who says that he wants to keep it a relationship site and not just for people who are looking for just sex, so one of the new things he is initiating is a rule that people can't contact someone with more than a 14 yr age difference.  he says "there is no reason for a 50 yr old man to contact an 18 yr old girl" which I certainly agree.  And then he says that the majority of messages outside of this age range are all about hookups--now does that mean that they read people's email messages? I'm sure they have the capability but I wouldn't think they would spend the time to have someone do that.

since I'm not one of those older men who is looking for a younger woman, I do wonder if it's true that it's just for hooking up.  I mean my best friend married a guy who is 26 yrs older than she is--so it's not impossible that there could be relationships between people of a big age difference that end up working.  I think that men could equally be looking for hookups with women closer to their own age--it depends on the guy.  But I think a big part of that is the ego thing--like I must still be virile & appealing if I can get a much younger woman.  Now I am wondering if it will just mean that more men will lie about their age.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-07-2013 - 2:21pm

I think you are right.  I think that on POF it already lets you set age criteria because at the bottom of someone's profile it says you can contact this man if you are between the ages of X and Y.  So if some old guy contacts me, really what is the big deal?  I just don't respond if I am not interested.  I've also had guys who are in their 20's contact me and my first thought is did you do this by mistake--are you looking for  your mother?  then I just kind of laugh.   I think people can decide who they want and don't want on their own.

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 3:28am
Hey Floridagirl, I have seen you on here alot, I think as early as 2008?? You and Musiclover, anyway these boards are great!!! helped me thru my EX of almost 27 years leaving/my divorce etc. Now I find myself on OLD, POF as a matter of fact lol, and on Match.com. What advice can you give me as to what to put on my profile?? Ive had over 1000 look at my profile and maybe 2 respond so IM thinking they like the way I look, but my profile stinks?? IVe been on and off OLD since my divorce 2010, and dated a couple, but its never worked out...I thought the last one was the one, but he didnt feel the same way about me, so here I go again!! IM definitley learning alot about myself and what I want and dont want in a relationship. Any help or suggestions would be great!! Thankyou!
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Registered: 04-15-2008
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 3:30am
Sorry IM at work and for some reason it wouldnt let me start a new discussion....just a reply...?????
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Wed, 08-28-2013 - 12:42pm
Hi, new to this board. What does AFF, EULA, GDI, and GDU mean. Thanks.

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