New age limits on POF

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Registered: 11-28-1999
New age limits on POF
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Wed, 05-22-2013 - 11:31am

I was surprised when I logged on to POF yesterday (since I don't look at it that much) that I got an email from the founder who says that he wants to keep it a relationship site and not just for people who are looking for just sex, so one of the new things he is initiating is a rule that people can't contact someone with more than a 14 yr age difference.  he says "there is no reason for a 50 yr old man to contact an 18 yr old girl" which I certainly agree.  And then he says that the majority of messages outside of this age range are all about hookups--now does that mean that they read people's email messages? I'm sure they have the capability but I wouldn't think they would spend the time to have someone do that.

since I'm not one of those older men who is looking for a younger woman, I do wonder if it's true that it's just for hooking up.  I mean my best friend married a guy who is 26 yrs older than she is--so it's not impossible that there could be relationships between people of a big age difference that end up working.  I think that men could equally be looking for hookups with women closer to their own age--it depends on the guy.  But I think a big part of that is the ego thing--like I must still be virile & appealing if I can get a much younger woman.  Now I am wondering if it will just mean that more men will lie about their age.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 05-23-2013 - 1:02am

I have dated both younger men and older men, but one reason I enjoy being with DH (who is significantly older) is we are at difference stages of our career - he is looking at winding down while I am at the height of mine.  I am insanely driven and used to turn a relationship with men around my age into a competition.  With DH, I admire his achievement and he supports my "climb".  Intellectually we are extremely compatible. 

All in all, I agree with Xxxs that it is silly for someone to artibrarily decide a 14-year difference is too much.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 9:19pm

"there is no reason for a 50 yr old man to contact an 18 yr old girl" 

    Gosh Music I thought you were more worldy than that.   Arm Candy!!  Jealous other males.   Males parade their treasures.  A 50 year old who spent 25 years building wealth and power now has the mojo that he did not years earlier.  While the "bad" guy got the girls in high school and college he studied,made a real success of himself and realize that it is not his body they are after.   $$$$$$ talks.  CoolTongue OutMoney Mouth

dragowoman

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 3:16pm

Hey, well if I go back on POF, I guess I won't have to worry about the 72-yr-olds contacting me anymore! Actually, POF is pretty awful in my neck of the woods, so I WON'T be going back there.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 2:37pm

  Or women.  This is just because many people do want to find lovers but AFF and others are not their cup of tea or they are concerned about the data mining.  And EULA problems.  (Who want their boss or next employer to know they like to dance on tables or swing from chandelears(sp)

  Age has never been a barrier to me.  But some women probably complained that the men wanted younger women.  Nanny online dating brought to you by the small minds.

  I find prudishness unappealling.  But many people are compelled to lie.  Drop downs that exclude catagories that would imply sexual interest(code word intimacy).  

People like myself who are not looking to get married but want friends/sexual partners/either.  Who are also  GDI NOT GDU.

dragowoman

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