new to this.. am I being too picky??
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|Thu, 12-03-2009 - 3:24pm|
I recently started OLD on Match, but I feel like I might be a little too picky... let me elaborate..
I started OLD because I really don't have much of a social circle, so it's just hard for me to meet new people. I first made my profile this past summer, just to see what kind of guys I matched with, but didn't pay the subscription fee till just a couple weeks ago. I read somewhere that the best way not to be overwhelmed with OLD is to pick just 5 people you're interested in and email them. Cuz let's face it.. at first, there's a LOT of profiles to go through. So I picked 5 and emailed them, and although I still occasionally go through my matches and see if anyone catches my eye, I'm trying to focus on getting to know these few guys.
So anyway... most of the guys I've communicated with seem like nice guys... but they all seem to have one flaw (normally a pretty minimal one) that's just holding me back. It's different for all the guys... Kyle has a great profile and seems interesting, but he seems to have one too many pictures up of his (very attractive ;p) body. Jim emailed me saying he was interested.. but most of his emails are duds, like he doesn't seem interested in really telling me about himself... Matt and I share a lot of the same interests, but he only has 1 picture up, which is a huge annoyance to me with OLD (it just seems if you're really interested in finding someone, you would put up a few GOOD pictures, not 1 from far away and 3 of your car).
Now, it's not that any of those things are dealbreakers for me.. after all, maybe Jim prefers to do all the "get to know each other" talk in person... and maybe Matt just doesn't have many pictures of himself and doesn't want people to base things on his looks.. and maybe Kyle is just proud of the way he looks and isn't trying to be vain...
Maybe the right question isn't "am I too picky"... I have yet to actually meet any of these guys, so do any of you feel this way about guys before you actually meet them?? Just kinda mediocre about it?? Like I said, they all SEEM like good guys, but since I feel so "eh" about them now, I'm wondering if I should just stop trying... or should I meet them in person and see how I feel about it then??
There is ONE guy who I've been communicating with that I have yet to find a flaw with... he's the one out of all of them who I REALLY look forward to hearing from. You know when you go out with a guy for the first time, and you pretty much know from the first 15 minutes whether or not there's a connection?? Is it the same way with online dating?? Those few guys who I'm just not WOW-ed by, is that a sign??
One last question I had, about Match specifically... I know if you send your real email in a message, they'll block it out for your protection.. do they do the same with AIM or MSN screennames?? The reason I ask is that I love to IM, but hate the Match IM system. To me, IM-ing is a little more... real, I guess you could say.
PS-- Feel free to give me any other advice you have on OLD.. I'll take all the help I can get! :)