A new approach
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| Sun, 11-27-2005 - 9:23pm |
OK, I've made an executive decision...apparently, whatever I'm doing in the online dating world isn't working, and effectively scaring guys off. So, I'm going to have an all new approach.
Last week, I saw that a guy I had chatted with 6 months ago had viewed my profile again. We had a really great e-mail thing going on, and then somehow, it just fizzled out. So, I sent him an e-mail with the subject line "I saw you peeked at me". I just put in a few lines about "Hey, I saw you had looked at my profile again...just wanted to say that I liked your new Main Pic much better than the old one..." and left it at that. Didn't say that I'd like him to contact me again or anything. Didn't figure he'd respond at all, since he was the one who stopped contacting me in the first place. But he did! He asked how I'd been doing, etc, smalltalk, ya know? So a few days later (not jumping on his e-mails right away, to show that I have better things to do! lol), I e-mailed back, and basically said "Thanks for remembering me, and good luck with your search", again, acting like I didn't give a damn.
Well, I ust got another e-mail from him! A long one! Smalltalk, mostly, but referencing something that we had joked about previously, and he said that he liked my mew pics, too, that they "showed off my pretty blue eyes."
So, I'm gonna wait a few days to e-mail him back, then make general smalltalk, but act as if I have absolutely no interest in knowing him romantically, just chitchating. Play hard to get, essentially. It seems to me that guys apparently like that better than girls who actually appear interestd in them--the "thrill of the chase" or whatever.
I can play the Game just as well as they can...MY turf this time! lol

Games of any kind (even mostly innocent ones like this) are not a good idea. It puts you in a bad position and then when things come out for real (and they usually do), you look even worse. If you like him, email him back. Don't wait a few days, don't play hard to get, don't act like you "don't give a damn". Be yourself. Yes, guys seem to like the chase, but if they also have short attention spans. Who knows what happened the first time around - chances are, he met someone else that captured his interest a little more or got busy doing something else and communication with you fell by the wayside. Maybe that's over now and since you're back in the picture again, he's chatting again.
However, that all said, as a former poster used to say all the time, "Why are you giving this person a second chance to reject you?" He blew you off once, chances are he'll do it again. Sure, he didn't have to respond and he is communicating with you but if I were you, I would expect him to vanish again.
I don't say this to be mean or cruel, but just protect yourself and keep yourself from getting hurt. You're kind of down on yourself right now and game playing and picking up with guys that stopped communicating with you once before probably won't help.
I don't see anything wrong with not showing you want to get to know them romantically, and focusing on just chit-chatting.