New approach is apparently working

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
New approach is apparently working
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:13pm

"You know... if you add up the time we've "known" each other, its been almost a year (ok, don't get into the details on that... details bad) so when do I get to actually talk to the travel agent totin' engineersitter??? It about time... don't ya think?? *wink*"

I posted about the guy that wrote the above message a few weeks ago. We had chatted on Match.com about 8 months ago, and after a while, he just faded into the woodwork. He had never hinted about taking our chats any further than the Match e-mail.

Well, I decided on a different approach this time around, acting like I had no interest in him romantically, no flirting, just friendly chit-chat, thinking that it's all in the thrill of the chase for guys...and he bites!

I never realized that playing coy would get me where I wanted to be! lol

I'll keep you posted...

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:56pm
amazing how that works huh! sometimes all you have to do is let off a little and let a guy take charge. its some sort of psychological power/control issue im sure. it works tho, sometimes. i personally like guys that take charge. he has to work for me, lol. not that i dont give back but still. congrats on finding a tactic that works, and good luck with this one!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2001
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 1:52pm
So did you send him any kind of message indicating you weren't interested romantically or just lay off sending any messages of any kind to him? I'm to the point where I'm ready to delete a couple guys from my messenger list I haven't heard from in weeks and weeks.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 3:23pm

Wow...you wait weeks and weeks to delete them. I guess I was a lot more impatient about it all.


I had a system. I would send out about 10 winks, if I got no response within 3 days I wrote them off. I only sent winks to people that had been active within the last week. I would only email for a couple of days before suggesting a meeting in a public place. The first meeting was only a couple of hours. If I never heard from them again I moved on, if I did and liked them I'd go out again. Then I'd start all over again...cruise the profiles, send out the winks...


It was great! I met lots of terrific

Solazzo