New "experiments" or......m

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New "experiments" or......m
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Fri, 09-23-2005 - 8:44am
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Sara


Edited 10/7/2005 7:58 pm ET by saralm
 
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 2:56am
Sara, Try black & white. I just had some taken by a friend and I like them better than any I've had taken in the past. Most digitals have a setting where they will take black & white. Why not experiment with that?
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:29am

fxr4me, you asked if i saw his pic. Yes, it is in his prfoile. One photo. He is very attractive to me. One of those guys that half the women would find irresistable and half would not see any attraction for. I am in the first half. :)
In regard to hoping we meet soon, yes...I worried about it all night. And tonight I am going to tell him either we meet or I have to show him pics I really don't like. I will give him a choice. I know that is only fair. I got us into this mess. And I figure I have a 50-50 chance he will like the pics enough because that is how it is going....Seems half the guys I like do like my photos enough and half don't...approximately.

Sara

 
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:31am

Debbie, the only photographer I have right now is my daughter. She has taken two photo sessions with me and didn't like doing it. So, I doubt I will get her to go for round three. And she is busy working this week, going back to work after vacation. Thanks for the idea though! :)

Sara

 
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:03am

A co-worker of mine (young girl mid-twenties) works part time at Lane Bryant. So, she always dresses nice. And, boy, does she take such pride in her appearance. What draws attention to her is that everytime I see her she changes her hairstyle. Of course it's fake, but I see that it makes her feel good. Her face "glows". Her whole aura speaks. She finds herself attractive therefore she is.
If I were a guy I date her. She's got a great personality and very confident in herself. Just a pleasure to be around.

There are alot of things we don't like about ourselves. We work on them. There are alot of things we like about ourselves. Show them off.

Be happy with who you are no matter what your size is. If a guy is going to judge you by your looks or dress size it's best to know now so you can have more time looking for someone who will like you for who you are.

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:05am
Well said! I totally agree - it's the whole package not just one aspect.
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:45pm
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Edited 9/26/2005 8:47 pm ET ET by saralm


Edited 10/7/2005 8:02 pm ET by saralm
 
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:51pm

"Plus, I have been having some financial worries over the issues of the separation."

I must have missed the part about you going through a separation...

Sara - sounds like you've come to this conclusion on your own as well, but really, if you are only separated, and not yet divorced, and not comfortable enough in your own skin to post a picture, and not ready to handle the rejection implicit in dating, you're probably not ready to date yet.

There is nothing wrong with taking time to GET ready... time to lose the weight, to finalize your divorce, and to put yourself in the right emotional mindset so that you bring something positive to a relationship...

Just a thought...

Tracy

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:54pm
Why wouldn't you at least give him a chance? What if the picture was no big deal to him? What if he liked you despite what you think of yourself? I think it's so sad that he didn't get a chance to tell you that you are beautiful to him. If you had exchanged pics in the very beginning, the story wouldn't have ended this way.
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 8:57pm

Thanks. You are so right. Everyone told me here weeks ago already. I didn't listen. I kept trying to reel myself in, but I was so anxious. Yeah, just recently separated. Not ready at all...but I so miss the male attention as I said from day one here. I just have to hold myself back....and this lesson should do. It hurts.

Sara

 
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:00pm

Thanks for your thoughts. I couldn't give him the chance because I can't take the pain. That's all there was to it. Maybe he will accept a communication later on, when I am more ready. I hope so.

Sara