New guy LIED to me, what to do?

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New guy LIED to me, what to do?
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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 12:22pm
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Edited 4/26/2007 5:43 pm ET by aimeenp

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 12:31pm

Hmm...that's a tough one. I would write him off...well, I would want to. I think he has feelings for the girl, if he didn't, he wouldn't have been so eager to put you on hold to go wit her. Did he introduce you to her? How did he introduce you? If he said "This is "X" the girl I am dating..." that would sit better with me than "this is X a friend". You understand?

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 12:47pm

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Edited 4/26/2007 5:44 pm ET by aimeenp
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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 12:52pm
He lied to you and cancelled at the last minute to go out with another woman - two giant red flags. If this is his idea of how to treat a woman, then he isn't worth the effort. I say move on.
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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 2:27pm
A man who has nothing to hide, hides nothing!
sooooobig
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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 5:30pm

Hey!
If it were me, I'd have to NEXT him! You two aren't even exclusive yet and he's pulling this? Like you said, there was no need to lie: if he wanted to hang out with another girl, he didn't have to lie and say it was a 'guys' night. He could've said that a friend from school called and he was gonna hang out with her. Of course, he made plans with you, so it wasn't cool to blow you off to hang with anyone else, guy OR girl.
Bottom line: these are red flags, signs of the kind of person he probably is. You should consider yourself lucky to see these signs early on...if you do decide to move on, it may not be as difficult.

If you decide to continue, just know that you're dealing with someone who has already shown that he isn't trustworthy...and don't be surprised if/when it happens again.

Good luck.

Mali

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 7:18pm

If the roles were reversed (since I'm a guy), I would move on. I would rather find someone I don't have to second guess or worry if they are going to lie to me again.

Mark

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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 12:37pm
"When people show you who they are the first time, believe them".....Maya Angelou
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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 3:43pm

Thats my favorite saying!


He chose someone over you AND lied about it. This early on (or any time of course), BAD BAD BAD!

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Sun, 04-15-2007 - 7:27pm
Hi,
Personally, I wouldn't give him the time of day. Any lie is a bad indicator.
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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 7:37pm
No way I'd give him a second chance. He had no reason to lie. That must have been such an awkward situation. NEXT!
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